(Closed) Are you inviting everyone whose weddings you were invited to?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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5572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We aren’t. One of FI’s old college roommates got married last year and we were invited. I’d never met them before and Fiance hadn’t seen them for a few years. We went to the wedding and it was beautiful but we haven’t hung out with them since. When we first started working on the guest list I included them but it got to the point where I would rather invite 2 people who we know and who are actually involved in our lives. I think it’s a case by case thing.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it depends on how old you are and where your social circle is.

I’m 33.  I’ve been going to weddings for a decade now.  I’m not inviting everyone who ever invited me to their wedding. 

If I was 23-25, my answer would probably be different.  🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Nope. We didn’t have anywhere near enough room. Our wedding was only 50 people and I don’t even really talk to some people whose weddings I’ve been to anymore, so I was definitely not going to invite those people over my close friends. My rule of thumb was if you can’t imagine your wedding without them, invite them. If you feel like you’d be inviting them out of “obligation”, they’re cut.

Post # 6
Hostess
11284 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No we aren’t.

Post # 7
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We only have space for about 80 people at the restaurant so we aren’t inviting all the people who have invited us to their weddings, including extended family.

Personally, I wouldn’t worry about invites if you didn’t go to the people-in-question’s wedding. 

Post # 8
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Yep, because I’m a people-pleaser. But mostly because our numbers allowed for it.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think we’re inviting most couples whose weddings we’ve been invited to in the past few years, but not out of a sense of obligation. These are people we genuinely want at our wedding.

Post # 10
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555 posts
Busy bee

Nope. This was hard for me, but there was one couple whose wedding I had been invited to as they got married the week after college graduation. I didn’t go and have not spoken to them since and its been 4+ years. Another girl was a frenemy and she only invited me to her wedding, not my now husband who was my Fiance at the time, so she got cut.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes and No.

The yes situation is because we were both (my Fiance and I) in their wedding party

And no, to another couple that I used to be close with the bride when we worked together, butw e haven’t seen them or barely spoken to them since their wedding last year, so they didn’t make it onto our guestlist.

I wouldn’t invite someone simply because they invited me before though. It just depends if I honestly want them there or not.

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