Post # 1
I spent a good share of this weekend creating the floral arrangement for the arbor for our wedding in July. I was really pretty proud of myself for figuring out how to attach everything and still make it trasportable and I just really loved the way all the flowers had come together from my own handiwork. I was relaxing when SO came home. He asked when I was going to finish it up. Not in a “hurry up already” way, just in a “clearly you’re not planning on leaving it like that” way. He thought it should be even on both sides. I said I was done – that it was supposed to look asymetrical, and he went with “are you kidding?” I had sent pics of it earlier to the bridesmaids and they had all complimented me and said it looked amazing. Now I’m totally second guessing it even though I know this guy isn’t exactly a design pro. 🙂 The real bummer is he texted a pic to a buddy and asked him if it looks finished to him – and told the buddy to ask his wife too. Wow. I know I shouldn’t care what their opinion is, but they both came back with thinking it doesn’t look finished. Of course he obviously fed them that opinion. And I’m a little bummed he sent it out too – trying to leave the decor as a surprise for the big day. How does it look to all you bees in the trenches doing the DIY stuff? Feeling a little defeated.
Post # 2
I think it looks beautiful but for those who are not familiar with wedding decor, it might look like the flowers were misplaced on top of the arbor.
I would make it even more asymmetrical so it looks intentional.
Post # 3
I think it’s really lovely! And I wouldn’t worry about other people seeing it beforehand. If anything when they get to actual wedding and see it set up they’ll think how foolish they were for not liking it lol.
Post # 4
It looks beautiful! I don’t think you should change it at all. I agree with keevolpi. That is not going to be their main focus for the day anyway, so it’s just a lovely accent to go with the main event: your marriage!
Be proud that you made it yourself, and if others don’t like it, screw ’em. It’s your wedding and should reflect your personality and likes! And I’m sure your SO doesn’t actually care all that much about it. If he did, he would have tried making it himself.
Post # 5
You managed to go off the beaten track in an elegant manner with your arbor decor. Sometimes, when people see a design element that is not typical, they react the same way your Fiance and his friends did. They are not used to it; they find it strange. Trust your design instinct; do not second guess it.
On another note, it would be a good idea to reach an understanding with your Fiance as to sharing your ideas with others for their opinions. Tell him what you feel comfortable with, and what you don’t.
Post # 6
Thank you all! I am feeling better about it in the light of day. So true that in the big scheme of things, who cares? And thanks for all the support that my notion of decor wasn’t so far off! As far as the friend he texted, they talk three times a day, that’s not a battle I’m going to take on. 🙂 And he’s a good friend in the end, so it’s all good. Thanks again, bees!
Post # 7
Honestly when the first looked at it, I thought it wasn’t finished. It’s not quite asymmetrical enough for me to realize it’s supposed to be like that- if that makes sense. I think it’s absolutely gorgeous and you did an amazing job with the flowers, but something about it is bothering me. I think there’s too much bulk in the middle to have a truly asymmetrical look
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2017 - Ceremony: Cellon Oak Park; Reception: Alachua Woman\'s Club
Gah! These guys and their ideas that everything has to be symmetrical! I’m doing mismatched milk glass vases for our centerpieces and have been looking for cheap milk glass at thrift stores. Every time my fiancé is with me when I buy one he’s like “Do you have any others like that? Will it be an even number of that kind?” For the bazillionth time NO!! It’s supposed to be mismatched! It will NOT be symmetrical, they will NOT match, they will NOT be in sets, and the centerpieces at each table will be different! I told him he’s got about 10 months to get used to it before the wedding lol. Meanwhile I have about 40 milk glass pieces sitting on our dining room table and he has arranged them into matching patterns and sets lol 🙄
I think your arbor decor looks awesome! I think your fiancé is going to think any decor on the arbor is going to look odd when it’s sitting in your house and not seen in the context of the wedding. If he had walked up to it at the wedding he probably wouldn’t think it looked odd at all. I’d stick with the female opinions on it and don’t worry about what the guys say lol.
ETA: After posting I just walked into the kitchen to find my fiancé taking all the shelves out of the kitchen cabinets to trace them to cut shelf liner to fit each one….. I think his OCD tendencies are getting worse lol. I showed him the pic of the arbor and he goes “Why is it uneven?” It’s clearly just a boy thing lol. Just put a “No boys allowed” sign on the room it’s in and only let females see it until the wedding lol. It looks great 👍🏻
Post # 9
OMG! I love the milk glass saga! And I love milk glass centerpieces – I’m sure it will be beautiful! So last night I took the half hour and added another panel of flowers to make it more asymmetrical, I just didn’t want SO to not “get” it – it’s kinda his wedding too, right? lol Then when he got home (and hadn’t seen the arbor yet) he told me I shouldn’t change a thing – if I love it, he loves it, what does he know about decor anyway. So I guess we love each other and want to make each other happy. 🙂 Anyway, I still love the arbor and he’s at least saying he loves it now…
Post # 10
I think it looks even more fabulous now!