(Closed) Are any Bees an ordained minister?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just filled it out the other night and printed it because a girlfriend and her LONG time FH are finally making it legal.  No ceremony, just filling out the paperwork for them.  Darling Husband has performed a few now, he loves it.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Eva Peron:And if you could do it for a reasonable rate – extra bonus.  The “ordained” *cough online* ones around here wanted to charge $400+.  I about passed out, then I was just ticked when I called the county and they don’t register officiants or ministers.  They also never check credentials so tech you don’t even need the online license.  We wrote the ceremony, so what did they want the $400+ for.

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My husband got ordained on the internet and performed a ceremony for a friend! It’s pretty handy and 100% free!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am an ordained minister with the Universal Life Church.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

One of my BM’s husbands got ordained online so he can perform our ceremony. 

@tksjewelry: They don’t have to register here either. I do believe he was going to, but when we applied for the license she said he did not have to be registered in the county to perform it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance got ordained through the internet and married his friends two years ago!  haha

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m ordained. XD Here you can self unite too, no minister needed… 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Please be very careful about using a friend ordained online as your officiant!  As a lawyer, I am appalled by the number of people who take it for granted that they can have a friend ordained online perform their weddings. Here are the facts:

  • In several states, any marriage performed by such an officiant is invalid.
  • In many other states, the validity of any such marriage is unclear, and could be decided by later court action.
  •  If there is a problem with your marriage, you will not be notified when the marriage license is filed. Instead, you will likely learn of the issue only years later, when the validity of the marriage is in question (e.g., on death, divorce, or bankruptcy). At that point, you won’t have the legal rights you thought you did, and it will be too late to fix the situation.

With all the obsessing people do over the tiniest details of their weddings, don’t forget to make sure that the wedding fulfills its one really critical purpose–to make you legally married.

Here is a New York Times article on the subject. This is just not something you want to fool around with!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@2dBride: Thanks for sharing that! My dear friend faced that issue when her husband died. She found out that her marriage was invalid and wasn’t entitled to anything. She was left penniless and on the street.

FH is an actual ordained minister with an Masters of Divinity. Even he has to register in the state he is performing marriages in. It does involve some paperwork and can sometimes be held up with red tape. A pp said they don’t check and while that is true wouldn’t you hate to find out there is a problem when it is too late? The process differs state to state and county by county.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

How would you even know if the person marrying you was doing it legally? I think were going to just self unite and have a friend read a poem and announce us as Mr and Mrs. Easy enough.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@2dBride: I appreciate the info. You are correct many brides do not look into this matter. I am surprised that Maryland was listed in that article. Perhaps it changes from coutny to county here.

From everything I have read Maryland is a state that it is considered legal and I did talk to the county clerk’s office about it. I have off the Monday after the wedding and will be filing my paperwork myself as I had that very same concern over someone else handling it. I will also be getting my copies at the same time. She told me that once it was filed I could get them immediately.

 

EDIT: Here is just one site that lists the info per state… http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelicenses/a/officiants.htm

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@StormyRose: It is legal here. My brother got ordained and married us, and I spent an hour on the phone with the Attorney General’s office triple checking that it was ok in the state of MD, and it is. And I also found out that the license they fill out is the original copy, and you don’t wait for the license in the mail like I thought at first.

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