Post # 1
I invited one ex to my wedding… and wouldn’t have minded if Mrs. Bee invited an ex.
The key criteria (to me) for a successful ex invite:
- Both you and the ex have to have moved on (and there’s no recent history whatsoever),
- Your Fiance absolutely must have approval over the invite, and
- The ex should be less attractive than your Fiance.
#3 isn’t mandatory, but it sure helps! And of course, nobody could ever be as beautiful as Mrs. Bee :-).
How about you – any ex’s crashing your party?
Post # 3
What is interesting is that one ex of mine will be coming to the wedding, but he is family (not in an incest way).. he is my sister’s husband’s step-brother. I consider him family more than an ex now. I tend to forget that we even dated! haha
Other than that, no ex’s will be in attendance. Although, one has threatened to crash the wedding… ugh. I dislike immature people. 🙂
Post # 4
P.S. haha mrbee… I love your #3. So funny… AND TRUE!! 🙂
Post # 6
I went to Mr. Ex’s wedding a few years ago (FI was invited but had other obligations), so I think it’s only fair that he and his wife get an invite to our wedding. They may have to miss it due to timing and the bad economy, though. Fiance is fine with it, but doesn’t have any exes he wants to invite.
I definitely agree with your criteria, too!
Post # 7
We are inviting one of Fiance’s exes, but she is a friend of the family and her parents are also invited. I have met her a bunch of times now and we get along well. I am not sure how I would feel about any other exes of his though, and I personally am not friends with any exes so that isn’t an issue.
Post # 8
Yes, but I hardly think of him as an ex. We dated for a bit over a month. We were both in bad places to be in a relationship, but we hit it off as friends and were pretty close (we’ve introduced each other as "honorary" brother/sister before). We even lived together in grad school for a bit (while I was dating my FH). We’re less close than before b/c he had a jealous Girlfriend for a couple of years and we drifted during that time. But it’s funny b/c now he’s getting married 6 weeks before me! When I firtst met his FW they was not very serious, but after five minutes I knew she was perfect for him. He was skeptical when I told him, but I like to believe anyway that my influence is what made him invest more in it. It’s so exciting for me that he’s so happy, and that we’ll both be able to share this experience close in time.
Post # 9
that would be a NO. i’d really like to avoid my dad getting thrown in jail on my wedding day!
Post # 10
Too funny Mr. Bee! I had an ex at the wedding, but it wasn’t an ex-boyfriend ifyaknowwhatimean. He’s actually one of my best friends, and the hubs wasn’t sure about it at first, but after thinking about it more he gave me the ok. The hubs only had one ex and I have to say I would have been annoyed if she were invited and he said he would feel the same if I had invited one of my actual ex-boyfriends.
Post # 11
One of the Mr’s exes will be there, but all three of Mr. Bee’s criteria were met before she was invited. However, we’re renting a condo where one of my BMs, his mom & sister will be staying with us (it’s a 3 bedroom), and the suggestion was made (because it would cut down on everyone’s part of the rent) that she could stay there as well… yeah, I put my foot down on that one! Not because I thought anything shady would go on, she just annoys me.
Post # 12
Yes, one of my exes will come to the wedding, because he is part of my long-time core group of friends, and I can’t imagine getting married without all of those friends there. We are still friends (but absolutely nothing more than that). He has a really nice gf with whom I get along very well, and I am not a slightest bit attracted to him anymore.
Post # 13
My fiance and I have been together for just over 7 years; we started dating in high school and there aren’t many serious exes to consider. Oh, but I just remembered that one of his groomsman was my "boyfriend" in sixth grade…maybe we should talk about this….HAHAHA! Luckily (I guess) for us, this should never really be an issue we have to face…at the wedding or after!
Post # 14
My ex and his fiance are our photographers!
Post # 15
No, none of our exs will be invited to the wedding. We both have a pretty short list, and most ended on bad terms. If we were still close to one of them, I don’t see why not. It just didn’t happen that way for us.
Post # 16
If my ex showed up to my wedding, I would probably call the police. I had to change my phone number because he was stalking me.