(Closed) Are any of you cool with your S.O.’s ex?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think you are over thinking it. What exactly do you want her to comment on? She obviously knew you were getting married. Are you wanting her to say congratulations or something? I mean, she is still his ex, so she might feel weird about it, even if you two are chummy. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Darling Husband and I are both friends with our exes, attended each other’s weddings, etc. I think her not commenting on your status change is overthinking it a bit. I mean did every single other person comment? Likely not. I would let it go. I’m sure she’s happy for you both, it sounds like you’ve all moved on in life and are happy for each other!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yep, that is over thinking it. My Fiance has commented on this girl’s FB when she got married that he wishes the best for her and they have tons of blessings etc. And this girl was a bitch n’ a half to him and never said thank you for it. And neither has ever commented on FI’s engaged status.

So as you can tell, people don’t always behave as you expect them to. There is no way of knowing why. The only thing you can do it not let it get to you. It’s annoying like a pin prickin’ ur backside but you gotta try and stop thinking abt it or in your head it will spiral out of control and turn into something HUGE.

Post # 8
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Honey bee

Ya, I think you are way overthinking it.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Depends on which one you’re talking about.

No – There is one who is a complete psycho – she facebooked me for the first year of our relationship (yeah, I blocked her and she kept making new profiles) telling me how I “stole the love of her life.” She even resurfaced and did it again around our 3 year anniversary. Okay lady, clearly if he’s still the “love of your life” you have issues. (They had broken up long before we started dating too – and had only dated for like 6 months.) 

Yes – Then there are some he “dated” like in middle/high school that he’s now really good friends with and I love as well. There’s two that I’m friends with. We actually just went to the wedding of one of his ex’s last October. 🙂 We’re cool. She cuts my hair, we go on lunch dates/parties – usually as couples though.

So I think maybe you’re over-thinking it. Maybe she just didn’t have anything to say and didn’t want to sound generic. Maybe she is a little jealous, but prob more jealous that she’s NOT in a relationship. I think that it depends on her how your relationship will continue – the ball is sort of in her court, ya know?

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If she’s married, I doubt she’s jealous. I have friends I talk to in person but don’t comment on FB. And my own brothers have never commented on any of my wedding pictures. If she saw you in person she would likely say congrats.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oops – didn’t read that she WAS married. Maybe she is unhappy in her relationship. Or maybe she, like I said before, didn’t want to do the facebook generic “Congrats!” I wouldn’t take it too personally. It is his ex afterall. Maybe she thought it’d be weird to comment, even if you were on okay terms.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My FI’s ex trew me a baby shower LOL I am not going to lie it was a bit awkward but it wasn’t that bad. she is the only one that I have ever spent any time with. and another one came to the baby shower but I really don’t know her that well. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It depends on which one we are talking about for me too.

No- ex wife that periodically writes him emails on his military email account (that I keep up with bc those passwords are too complicated he doesn’t want to mess with it) to say stuff like I miss you and I wish that things didn’t end up the way they did and you should email me sometime bc I miss talking to you. Sending him FB requests and that stuff.

Yes- Baby Momma. She is most of the time really sweet. She can be a B**** to him, but she is my friend on facebook and we comment on each others statuses and pictures. She has custody of their son in Texas while we are in Tennesse so we don’t get to see them that much, but its nice when we have to be around her. So very glad i don’t have to deal with the crazy baby momma drama.. haha.

He isn’t friends with any of my exes except 1 and it was kinda bc I didn’t tell him that he was my ex (hell we dated like 2 months) until after he met him and now he talks to him more than I do. haha. I guess it all depends on the people and the dynamics. You win some, you lose some.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Fiance and I aren’t friends with eachother’s exes.  We went to different schools so it’s not like we would have been friends with the other’s bf/gf before we got together.

As for commenting on your FB status, I don’t think it’s worth spending even a moment thinking about it.  Who cares who commented or didn’t comment on your status??

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