Are bridal shower gifts for the bride or for the couple?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

I consider it shared. Its not like there is a “grooms shower” for him to get stuff lol.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

All the gift cards we got were used/will be used for items for our home. That said, my husband doesn’t exactly care about things from Pottery Barn or Williams Sonoma, so it was really for me haha.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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otterbee :  Its for the couple. Which is why couple showers are seen more now and a great idea. Traditionally, women were stay at home moms/wives. So, the shower gifts were items the bride would use to create and maintain the home. 

Money recieved at the shower should go to help pay for the wedding or honeymoon. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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otterbee :  Since you’re celebrating a union, the couple shares the gifts, including cash. Most guys will even consider lingerie as a gift for both hahaha

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s shared since ideally it was agreed by the two of you what you would like/need for your home. 

Cash from the shower was put towards gifts we didn’t receive or funding the emergency fund we have. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Why wouldn’t it be shared? The only things that I wouldn’t share would be things that are obviously specific for the bride. For example, a friend got me pampering things to help me relax pre-wedding. Bubble bath, candles, face mask, bottle of my favourite wine

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Most of the items gifted are household items (so shared). I did receive a couple items just for me like spa items and a new lunch tote 🙂 Any giftcards I received, I spent on items for our house.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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otterbee :  Traditionally the bride. Usually fun, personal gifts.  The wedding gifts are for the couple…

Post # 11
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Busy bee

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otterbee :  Theres nothing wrong with getting something just for the bride! I loved getting a few items just for me

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

My grandmother bought me lingere and that was probably more of a gift for him.  Said she wanted “him to be happy.”

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I had a few small personal gifts that were obviously just for me. (A mrs coffee mug, a gift cert to wine and cheese tasting,  both of which he hates) but the gift certs to bed, bath, and beyond were for both of us.  The whole shower was really more for him since he created 95% of the registry and is king of our kitchen.  If you have something that’s just for the bride then I would just give that.  I’m sure she’ll love it.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I always thought the bridal shower was for gifts primarily for the bride like that kitchen aid mixer she’s been drooling over or a cutesy bath robe. The wedding is for couple gifts and the bachelorette party is for all that sexy lingerie that would make the older ladies at the bridal shower cringe. Haha(: If you found something personal for the bride then I think the bridal shower is absolutely a good time to give it to her but do know that unless it’s specifically a girl thing it’ll likely be shared with her future husband (like if you got her a toaster or spice rack or something). 

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