Post # 1
Some of my best friends in my life are already married and I would feel weird not having them as my bridesmaids while my other single or unmarried girlfriends were my bridesmaids. I know “do what you want it’s your wedding” applies here, but is there some unspoken rule that married women aren’t supposed to be bridesmaids?
Post # 3
I think there may be some antiquated tradition that bridesmaids were supposed to be “maids”, but it’s so long forgotten that nobody will bat an eye if you had married ones.
Post # 4
I think it’s a traditional custom. Most wedding rules/customs come from tradition, though, so I wouldn’t let it stop you. Like the veil apparently has religious connotations… the bride’s parents are supposed to pay because it’s the dowry, yadda yadda. If you didn’t want anything rooted in tradition, then you might as well not have a wedding ceremony. So I think that it really doesn’t matter if they’re married or not in today’s day and age.
Post # 5
Nope. Like PPs have said, there is probably some sort of tradition thing, but it is most definitely NOT something to be followed today. I was just in a wedding last weekend. Pretty glad I wasn’t called a “Bridesmatron,” haha.
Post # 6
Absolutely no one will care if one of your bridesmaids isn’t single. No one. Now go rock on with your besties!
Post # 7
Nope, you can have whoever you want up there!
Post # 8
@AmeliaBedelia: haha – bridesmatron, so funny (and true).
Thank you everyone!
Post # 9
You can even, gasp, have men on your side and women on his! Really, that “rule” is not followed anymore.
Post # 10
@FoodieBride14: Although possibly some of the most traditional and least progressive people in the world may still think bridesmaids must be unmarried, the vast majority of people truly won’t care. Select whomever you like as your bridesmaids! Two of my three bridesmaids are married, and I can’t imagine not having them by my side at my wedding.
Post # 11
seriously? I’ve NEVER been to a wedding (or even heard of one) where the bride (or anyone else) cared that one or more of her bridesmaids were married…
Post # 12
I don’t think it matters. 3 out of 4 of the girls in my bridal party are married!
Post # 13
All of my bridesmaids except one were married, and out of the three married, one had a child and one was pregnant. Oh, the scandal! Have fun.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
Unfortunately, I will be following that rule… so that my mother would not have a freak out of me not respecting my own cultural traditions. (5000 years of history, yada yada, it has been.. yada yada) So, yes.. my Maid/Matron of Honor is unmarried. It works out coincidentally though as I can’t imagine having anyone but my MOH to be my bridesmaid.
My parents’ wedding was like that — where the bridesmaid and best man were both unmarried.
Post # 15
Ahhhhh no. One of mine was married and another engaged.
Post # 16
I never heard of that before. None of my girls were single.