(Closed) Are children allowed at your reception?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Your reception: Adults Only or Kids Allowed?

    Adults Only

    Kids Welcome (12 and under)

  • Post # 3
    10354 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We want no kids. At least one person has already blatantly ignored our not addressing the invite to the family, our “two seats have been reserved in your honor” RSVP card, and our page detailing why children are not invited to the wedding on our website, though. Ugh.

    Post # 4
    2057 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters and they have kids. Their kids are the only kids invited as they are my nieces and nephews. 

    Post # 6
    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I voted that kids are welcome but thats not exactly true. We reaaaaaally wanted an adults-only event but it was a bigger battle than I was willing to fight. So yes, they are “invited.” But they are not what I’d call “welcome.” I am not having kids meals, there will not be activity books, and I am hoping x 10 that people have the good sense to leave their kids at home. 

    Post # 8
    5150 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yes 🙂 I originally thought I wanted an Adults only reception…but it got complicated with both sides of the family, etc and the kids ended up being great! always on the dance floor and not ill behaved.

    Post # 9
    4122 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We’re complicated.

    We want kids.

    Our list would add a potential for at LEAST 50 kids.

    While we know many wouldn’t bring their kids… IF all 50 came, we couldn’t fit them in the venue…

    Our wedding party kids and their siblings are invited… but that’s it. i.e. the ring bearer and his sister, a flower girl and her 2 sisters.

    We don’t have any “family” children at this point…  So all kids were “friends” kids… and we didn’t have space.

    I really really want kids there though… kind of bummed about it

    Post # 10
    1260 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I wanted an adults-only wedding and reception. One of my BMs ended up bringing her 6 month old baby to the reception, but I put my foot down at the ceremony. He was very well behaved, so it wasn’t an issue, but there was definitely going to be no toddlers. Like Corgi, my wedding just wasn’t kid-friendly – they would have been bored out of their minds. I hated weddings when I was a kid, except for the cake part 🙂

    Post # 11
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I said no kids, but the truth is we’re inviting two (half-brother and first cousin) and telling people we’re not banning kids outright.  Big but though – we are NOT kid-friendly people.  People are being duly warned that their children will be exposed to aristocrats-level bad language, heavy drinking (possibly more than just drinking), streaking, inappropriate humor, etc.  That behavior will be both tolerated and encouraged and any attempt to make it more kid-friendly will be mocked.

    We have a couple of friends who do or may have young children and who have told us that allowed or not allowed, their kids are not coming.  I think that was even before we gave them the schpiel.  Our friends know us by now, I guess… 

    I highly support this strategy.  So far (admittedly early) it’s working really well, though it does require 5-10 years of groundwork of being someone who terrifies small children.

    Post # 13
    185 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    @CorgiTales: I’m in the same boat. I would rather not have kids there but I just didn’t want to battle it. I hope people decide to leave their kids with a sitter.

    Post # 14
    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    We both love kids and are so excited to have them there. I’m worried there will be tons of them (and thus drive price up), but we’re so excited to dance with them, take cute pictures, and everything else. We’ll have a babysitter available though for late night if the parents want to enjoy themselves sans-children

    Post # 15
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I voted no children. Actually, there will be one child: our flower girl.

    However, the event is very adult centric: open bar, cigar bar, formal dinner. We made this decision early on and, thankfully, our families have been completly supportive.

    Post # 16
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I REALLY dont want kids…but it looks like its going to be one of those “pick your battles” situations with my fiance…his family has a lot of kids in it…some of them probably the most misbehaved children I have ever met…but he is insisting that they get to come…we still havent made an official decision yet…I have teenagers in my fam…12 and over…but they can behave without causing a scene…I really want to put my foot down on this one…but im not really sure what to do…

    I guess I am with Corgitales on this one…”invited” but not “welcome”

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