Post # 1
I have seen lots of board posts about no-children weddings but I am curious how many couples (as a percentage) opted for the “no kids” route? I think I will be forced to go adults only (exception: flower girls) because of the tiny venue and wanting to have as many of my friends attend as possible. You?
Post # 3
We want no kids. At least one person has already blatantly ignored our not addressing the invite to the family, our “two seats have been reserved in your honor” RSVP card, and our page detailing why children are not invited to the wedding on our website, though. Ugh.
Post # 4
I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters and they have kids. Their kids are the only kids invited as they are my nieces and nephews.
Post # 5
@crayfish: Sounds like someone needs a “talking to”?
Post # 6
I voted that kids are welcome but thats not exactly true. We reaaaaaally wanted an adults-only event but it was a bigger battle than I was willing to fight. So yes, they are “invited.” But they are not what I’d call “welcome.” I am not having kids meals, there will not be activity books, and I am hoping x 10 that people have the good sense to leave their kids at home.
Post # 7
@jackie-o: That seems fair.
Post # 8
Yes 🙂 I originally thought I wanted an Adults only reception…but it got complicated with both sides of the family, etc and the kids ended up being great! always on the dance floor and not ill behaved.
Post # 9
We want kids.
Our list would add a potential for at LEAST 50 kids.
While we know many wouldn’t bring their kids… IF all 50 came, we couldn’t fit them in the venue…
Our wedding party kids and their siblings are invited… but that’s it. i.e. the ring bearer and his sister, a flower girl and her 2 sisters.
We don’t have any “family” children at this point… So all kids were “friends” kids… and we didn’t have space.
I really really want kids there though… kind of bummed about it
Post # 10
I wanted an adults-only wedding and reception. One of my BMs ended up bringing her 6 month old baby to the reception, but I put my foot down at the ceremony. He was very well behaved, so it wasn’t an issue, but there was definitely going to be no toddlers. Like Corgi, my wedding just wasn’t kid-friendly – they would have been bored out of their minds. I hated weddings when I was a kid, except for the cake part 🙂
Post # 11
I said no kids, but the truth is we’re inviting two (half-brother and first cousin) and telling people we’re not banning kids outright. Big but though – we are NOT kid-friendly people. People are being duly warned that their children will be exposed to aristocrats-level bad language, heavy drinking (possibly more than just drinking), streaking, inappropriate humor, etc. That behavior will be both tolerated and encouraged and any attempt to make it more kid-friendly will be mocked.
We have a couple of friends who do or may have young children and who have told us that allowed or not allowed, their kids are not coming. I think that was even before we gave them the schpiel. Our friends know us by now, I guess…
I highly support this strategy. So far (admittedly early) it’s working really well, though it does require 5-10 years of groundwork of being someone who terrifies small children.
Post # 12
@KLP2010: I am bummed too, I would love to have the space to accommodate kids, I think it would be cute. But, alas I don’t..
Post # 13
@CorgiTales: I’m in the same boat. I would rather not have kids there but I just didn’t want to battle it. I hope people decide to leave their kids with a sitter.
Post # 14
We both love kids and are so excited to have them there. I’m worried there will be tons of them (and thus drive price up), but we’re so excited to dance with them, take cute pictures, and everything else. We’ll have a babysitter available though for late night if the parents want to enjoy themselves sans-children
Post # 15
I voted no children. Actually, there will be one child: our flower girl.
However, the event is very adult centric: open bar, cigar bar, formal dinner. We made this decision early on and, thankfully, our families have been completly supportive.
Post # 16
I REALLY dont want kids…but it looks like its going to be one of those “pick your battles” situations with my fiance…his family has a lot of kids in it…some of them probably the most misbehaved children I have ever met…but he is insisting that they get to come…we still havent made an official decision yet…I have teenagers in my fam…12 and over…but they can behave without causing a scene…I really want to put my foot down on this one…but im not really sure what to do…
I guess I am with Corgitales on this one…”invited” but not “welcome”