(Closed) Are children allowed at your reception?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Your reception: Adults Only or Kids Allowed?

    Adults Only

    Kids Welcome (12 and under)

  • Post # 32
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I counted and if we allowed kids we’d have 24 of them under 12!  No thanks.  I’d need to dedicate a whole other room to entertain them.  We are going no kids allowed.  I like the idea of writing “2 seats have been reserved for you” on the rsvp card.  Something like that will go on ours.

    Post # 33
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    i wish i could do no kids.  there are 3 kids in that are absolute terrors.  worst behaving run around screaming in any situation cant be control terrors.  unfortunately i haven’t convinced my mom that even thought they are family that they should not be allowed,.

    Post # 34
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I voted adults only (18 & over) although we’re making an exception for the wedding party if they have kids.  This was much harder for me than for him because I’ve always imagined having kids at my wedding; I love kids!  But that would’ve added about 100 more guests; we both have really big families.  Wedding party kids only 14 guests if they all bring their kids.

    FI’s mom keeps saying that some of his cousins will bring kids even if they’re not invited.  However, there is some family drama so maybe she just doesn’t want us to invite them.  Fiance is close to them so it doesn’t seem right to exclude them, but I still want to be very clear who’s invited so we listed the names of those invited on the RSVP, plus unless it’s a plus one we want to be able to invite our list B-ers and not have people substitute other people who weren’t invited because the one(s) invited couldn’t make it.

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Both. We do have three children attending, but they are my two nieces (10 and 12) and my nephew. He’s 2, and I’m not thrilled, but it wouldn’t be right to not have him. The guests are asked to have kids spend the day with their favorite babysitter because “they should have fun, too!”

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We are older (late 30s), and so many of our friends and family have children, and we wouldn’t dream of celebrating our wedding without them.  Plus, most of our guests will have to travel, and I would never dream of asking them to travel without their kids, or to just leave their kids with someone they don’t know.  But, we are having a small wedding (47 adult guests, probably 8-10 kids) so it’s less of an issue, and the kids are all less than 7 (so I get to buy them the $5 chicken finger plate instead of the $45 dollar steak/halibut plate).  We’ll have a corner of the reception venue set up with fun things for the kids to do, and our DJ is very kid friendly.  Again, we actually spend time with every child who is coming (except for 1), so it’s natural for us to have them there.  I totally understand not wanting random kids there.

    Post # 37
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We have 46 kids invited out of 153 invites. We are having a kids reception (supervised care) just across the terrace from our adult reception. 

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We’ll be allowing kids.  Not many of our friends/family have kids yet or everyone is already grown up.  There will probably be 5 or so kids, as far as I can tell.

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Only the kids from the wedding party. We really do not want children there as it is an evening wedding and also, we are both from large familes and we stopped counting at 52 kids and said “forget it!” Our venue charges half price for ages 2-7 and anyone 8 or over is considered an adult… Only 6 of the kids are under 7 so it would’ve been an additional $110 each child and that simply is not happening. We are getting some negative feedback from a few people who feel their kids should be there, but we had to draw the line somewhere so now we are sticking to it.

    Post # 40
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Grrr. This is such a difficult topic for me. We have about 15 kids (nieces and nephews) that I really want there. However, there are a few cousins that I am terrified of them bringing their families. I have never met any of their children and we could possibly have 35-45 kids there that I have never met. I want “adults only” unless specifically invited, but I’m losing the fight. It is just so hard for me to justify not inviting good friends because we have to feed kids that I don’t know.

    I guess in the end, we’re having kids there….so jealous of the truely “adults only” receptions out there.

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    There will be about 10 kids under 12 at our wedding including 3 babies all around 1 year old

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We’re somewhere in the middle. We were going to have all kids allowed and then some things changed and we don’t have as much space as we thought we did originally. So we called the adults with bunches of kids and explained the situation and asked if they’d be willing to leave their kids at home. Then we crossed our fingers. All were cool with it, probably because we called them to ask their opinion. So now we’re only going with children in the bridal party, out of town wee ones, and those who are too young to stay home. For them, we’re having an event nanny service to keep them occupied.

    Post # 43
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    We’d love to have kids, but we are already 10 people away from venue capacity without them.  How do you pick and choose who could be those 10?  Also, we would prefer to give our guests some breathing room at the venue.  No fun.

    Post # 44
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    At my first wedding, kids were welcome.  I had a lot of people with children coming from out of town.  Asking people to find a babysitter for one evening is one thing, but I did not want to be asking people either to find a babysitter for a whole weekend or to find a babysitter in a strange town.

    At my second wedding, the issue really didn’t come up.  There were only a dozen people invited to the ceremony, and none of them had children.  The at-home reception was at a night club, and all the guests were local.  I guess the few who had children didn’t want to expose them to that.  The only guest under twelve was the one dog who attended.

    Post # 45
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    The only kids that should be at our wedding is immediate family. I wish I had the budget to invite everyone and their mama, but I simply don’t.  At my venue there is no difference between a plate for a 4 year old or 40 year old, so it’s a no.

    Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Kids are definitely allowed in our reception. We wouldn’t have it any other way. We have tons of nieces and nephews whom we adore and would like them to be there on our special day.

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