Post # 47
I only invited out of state children . . . they ended up just being my cousins’ children. And the ring bearer. Even the out of town, but in state children were not invited. I felt a little bad b/c one friend did not come to the reception (but brought the kids to the ceremony). Still, everyone was very understanding . . . especially since I had no objection to them attending the church ceremony.
Post # 48
We’re having an adults only reception – although it’s been pretty easy for us in that most of our friends don’t have kids yet and most our parents friends have grown kids. So we don’t really have many children that we’re choosing not to invite. That said, my cousin has 5 very unruly, loud, raucous children that we are chosing NOT to invite. We’ve addressed their invitation to them only and my nan has made it very clear to them that the children are not invited. One of my other friends from highschool has just recently had a baby and I’m not sure if she’ll bring him or not but honestly if she does I don’t mind because he is the most beautiful, placid, quiet baby I’ve ever met! Only thing is I might find him a bit distracting cos he’s so gorgeous and I just wanna hold him all the time! LOL
Post # 49
We decided on no kids for many reasons. If weddings were free we probably would have had kids invited.
- My side alone there is 30+ kids
- We are trying to keep it on the small side (hoping for around 60 guests)
- Our venue only has a kid’s meal for kids under 12 (most of them are not)
- My friends like to get wild when they drink- do you want your 10 year old seeing that?
- There are a few that are very miss behaved and rude and I didn’t want them there.
Post # 50
We’re doing no one under 18 and thank god!! Not only is our venue on the smaller side but our budget would go waaaay out of wack with the 40+ childrrn that would have been coming. Plus, we’re not kid people anyway. So glad we get to have the wedding of our dreams!!
Post # 51
We decided no kids at ours. We aren’t kid people, and I have always thought a party with rowdy people and an open bar is really no place for a kid. Also, the ceremony and reception are taking place at a hall that is right next to a lake with a dock off the deck and we didn’t want to run the risk of any accidents. Even though our decision was more a safety concern than anything else, I know I am going to have at least three p-o’ed family members when they find out, but to me it is a fight worth fighting.
Post # 52
I don’t know which kids will be coming, (our wedding is a year away) but I imagine there will be a few toddlers and small kids there, including our nephew, who will be five when we get married. I think kids at receptions are fun -especially on the dance floor, and they can give people who don’t know each other or many other adults someone to hang out with /talk about /be entertained by. But I wouldn’t want 50 or 100 either.
Post # 53
I wouldn’t have a reception without kids!!!!!!! they are the most fun! I could be partial because I have 2 girls and my Fiance has 2 girls as well. All will be part of the wedding party.. actually, we have 7 kids in our bridal party!!! ahhh… 3 flower girls, 2 ring bearers, a jr bridesmaid, and a jr groomsman. So our reception will probably be kid heavy.. that being said though, besides the bridal party there is really only my 2 neices and nephew that will probably be there..
Post # 54
I’m loving the dog idea lol, I think my venue would object ahahaha.
Post # 55
Absolutely. In our families, weddings are family events and family includes kids of all ages. I could never imagine not allowing kids to attend because they enjoy themselves just as much as adults do.
Post # 56
Yeah, if I had family it would be a differant story. Neither Fiance nor I have alot of family and most of what family he does have lives in Lebanon and would not easily be able to come. So, the vast majority of the invited folks are friends and business associates.
Post # 57
We are keeping the ceremony and dinner as ‘adults only’ as possible. I have this nightmare that there will be children crying or talking all through our vows, plus if everyone brought their children we would be wayyy over budget and capacity. For the reception (dancing) portion of the day we are inviting extra guests and all children are welcome. Where I’m from small wedding followed by large reception is the norm though….
Post # 58
I’m surprised this is an almost even vote. I would never think of not inviting children to our wedding and intend on having some type of activity set up for kids, maybe coloring pages at their table or something.
I work as a nanny though too so I adore children and will be inviting a couple families I work for and my FH and I both know several people with young children.
Post # 59
In addition, if we didn’t allow kids, we would be banned from any and all future family events. We like our families too much to piss them off.
Even so, the kids who have attended other weddings were not the least bit interested in coloring books or kids tables and prefer to dance along with the adults or otherwise entertain each other.
Post # 60
For ours yes, but are situation is different, we wil be celebrating or 10 years of marriage and are planning a wedding to celebrate. We were married @ the court house and did not have any celebration. Our kids are our wedding party and the venue holds 500….we are planning to have a corner for the children to play video games and watch movies…they are to bring their favorite chairs..also our favors are going to be bags of popcorn..
Post # 61
we are definitly inviting kids. the weddings in my family are family functions, not adult events. it would be IMPOSSIBLE to NOT invite kids. i have 11 neices and nephews and 10 “neices” and “nephews” plus a kid sister. one bridesmaid is 10 another is 16. my bff has 3 kids, his bff has 2 kids and 2 of our closest mutual friends have 5 kids between them. our gms and bms have 8 children amongst them.
i am having 4 fgs 2 rbs 2 little ushers, 2 train carriers. all 4-11.
there are some invitations where the children’s names are not going to be listed, like my step cousins, but if they rsvp with kids, they are welcome to bring them. we are planning a very flexible wedding where exact rsvp is not an issue.
we will have a game room set up with a tv, kid movies, crayons, and games for the kiddos to play.