(Closed) Are corsages/bouts necessary?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Flowers are one of those many OPTIONAL things when it comes to Wedding Planning.

Personally, if you are going to opt for “some”… then you might as well make sure you haven’t left any of the usual players out (Bride – Bridesmaids – Groom – Groomsmen – Mothers & Fathers)… beyond that any and all are optional… Grand-Parents, God-Parents, Siblings, etc

Hope this helps,


Post # 4
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Cougar09:  Hm, I don’t plan on doing it, either. I’m interested in what others will say.

Post # 5
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t know the official answer, but I would think if it’s generally a small, casual wedding, it probably isnt a big deal. I think it will only be looked down upon if you come in in an obviously expensive dress and have things like uplighting, because then it will look like you just wanted to spend the money on what YOU wanted to spend it on, which might read as kind of selfish.

ETA: If it’s a matter of money, I’ve seen some really excellent DIY corsages/bouts that are super cheap and easy to make. Pinterest/Martha Stewart would probably be a good resource for something like this.

Post # 6
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I found the extras to be very inexpensive, bouttonieres were like $8 a pop and little mini-bouquets for our moms were like $20.  To each their own, but I think it’s nicer to make people feel included.  If it’s out of your budget or not to your taste, forget it.

Post # 7
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Who is getting them?  I will probably only have a bouquet and give the BM’s nothing or silk diy.  Flowers are expensive.  It depends on cost.

Post # 8
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We are just having for the men in the bridal party, and one for my mother since his can’t be there.  No grandmother’s on either side.  I know how to make them, so it’s not so much a deal for me.  Flowers is one of those things on my negotiable/doesn’t matter list.  I would much rather put the money toward food if I couldn’t do the corsages and bouts on my own.

Post # 9
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Because we went the DIY route, outside of the bridal party we had corsages/bouts for our readers (my godmother and brother), nosegays for my SILs, and the extra bouts we made (just in case) went to my nephews. It was a small gesture which was really appreciated.

Post # 11
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For us, they were.  We had planned on getting corsages for FI’s two grandmothers who are traveling from England to attend, but Future Mother-In-Law made sure to sit me down and grill me on their corsages (were they getting them? what flowers? etc.) just to make sure.

Post # 13
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think it comes off as cheap at all to not have them as they aren’t necessary. In fact, some people really hate wearing them. Both my mother and my future mother-in-law said they’d prefer not to wear them anyway.


Post # 14
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t plan on getting anything other than bouquets and bouts for the guys. No family corsages. 

Post # 15
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It’s an easy thing to do without.  We had them and it ended up costing a lot of money — not worth it in the end.  I’m sure they mostly were in the trash by the end of the evening. 

Post # 16
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have no bridal party, so no bridesmaids bouquets, and no floral centerpieces.  All I ordered was a bouquet for me, and corsages/bouts for all immediate family.  (dads, moms, their spouses, grandparents, sisters, and brothers)

It was important to me, because it’s not a huge wedding, favors are small, and I won’t be doing any other flower offerings during the ceremony or anything. 

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