Post # 1
So I kind of argued with a male friend about this. He is single and has had a few Craigslist hookups. When I found out about it I said, “ew”, and he said it’s no different than if he had met someone in the produce aisle or on a dating site. But I guess I feel he’s using that argument to justify Craigslist hookups. Sooo… what do you think? I guess I feel on a dating website at least you might be looking for a long term relationship and not just a booty call.
Post # 2
It’s not something that I would be personally into [even if I was single…] simply because I was never the type of person to just have sex with whoever just because. However, I know some people are into that kind of thing, and I think that it actually works out better because they simply state what they are after : sex. No head games, no waiting for them to call you back because all they wanted was a little piece.
To each their own, I suppose.
Post # 3
RedHeadKel: grind or tinder?
it feels judgemental because what if he’s not in a place to have a relationship? Two consenting adults practicing safe sex is two consenting adults practicing safe sex.
Just because it’s not for me doesn’t make it skanky
Post # 4
jenilynevette: Yeah, same here. Wasn’t into sex with just anyone. But yeah, I guess it could have some merit.
bitsybee: Yes, I guess I am judging him, but moreso from a side of I worry about him and diseases. Should’ve probably been more clear on that.
Yeah, maybe I just don’t get it…
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I voted other because it depends, to me, on the level of innocence of the relationship. I don’t really know how CL dating works, but if people find each other, open lines of communication, and then decide to go on a date and hookup then I think it’s ok. If they respond to an add that’s like “wanna bang?” and are banging a stranger within 30 minutes, then sounds pretty skanky, lol. I guess the distinction is making an informed decision on who to share your time and your bed with, or not.
Post # 6
Craigslist is just as legitamite as Tinder- people only go there to hook up and anyone who says otherwise is lying!
Post # 7
I don’t really have an opinion, but I do know of a man who recently made the news in our area after finding a craigslist hook-up, only to get robbed and beaten after he let the girl in his house…she had some dudes waiting down the road for the “all clear” for them to come in and rob him.
Moral of the story: tell your friend to be safe! There are crazy people out there.
Post # 8
RedHeadKel: I agree you are completely being Miss Judgey Mc Judgey on it. You can find a hook up just about anywhere. It just so happens he uses Craigslist.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s “skanky” for two consenting adults to be completely blunt in the fact that they are looking for casual, no-strings-attached sex, regardless of where they have that conversation. If anything, CL is probably less skanky because there’s a social expectation of the kind of relationship you’ll have when you meet up with someone you’ve met on a CL personals ad, as opposed to meeting in another manner and one person having no intention of anything other than a one-night-stand yet stringing the other one along.
Post # 10
Single adults consenting to a sexual relationship, no matter its origin, doesn’t really affect anyone else.
So no, I don’t think it’s ‘skanky’.
Post # 11
FutureDrAtkins: 100% agree.
Years ago I actually met a few people in that section of the CL site. I was looking for platonic friends as I was new to the area and wanted to make a few local acquaintances. One person unfortunately was absolutely bat shit crazy but I’m still friends with two others! It really depends on the honesty of both seekers and what direction they want to take their dealings.
Post # 12
It only takes ONE partner to contract an STD. Is your friend using condoms?
As for whether or not Craigslist is a decent place to find a hookup…it is no more “skanky” than picking up a random person at a bar and sleeping witih them.
I make a special effort to not judge other people’s sex lives. It isn’t any of my business and I wasn’t an angel before I got married.
Post # 13
It’s not more or less legitimate than other hook-ups. I think as long as people protect their emotions and their bodies, casual sex can be fine for people that are not me. So not me! But I don’t judge it as inherently wrong or right.
Post # 14
I’ve seen far too many Lifetime movies, so the whole idea of meeting someone from Craigslist freaks me out. (Even when buying furniture! LOL)
But, as other PPs have said, it’s not very different than the hookup apps. You can meet weirdos on “safe” dating sites too.
Post # 15
I think its become pretty sad when consenting adults cant even hook up for sex without it being so wrong lol Craigslist is just like any other dating site but without all the fluff. People post on there knowing full well what is and dont need or want the sugar coating.
Thanks to technology, we dont have to leave our house to find someone to bang. If you are as safe as you can be, then go for it. We all like sex and for those of us who like to enjoy it without a relationship, it works.