***WARNING: LONG!!** (sorry, lol!)
It depends on the formula that you choose…. Destination Wedding in an all inclusive resort is very different from Destination Wedding where you have to do everything by yourself, for example.
You definitely have to be OK with the fact that not everyone will be able to come; and not EXPECT them to come. It’s a bonus if they do, but if you end up getting married alone, just the two of you, you have to feel good about that too.
I also think that people criticizing that choice, saying that the guests have to pay, should not. People who came at our wedding, came for a great week of vacation. And they paid for that great all-inclusive week – not for the wedding. Wedding associated costs were ours to pay. Everyone who was able to come had a great time. We’re getting married for us, not for people around us. OK, vent’s over!
The bulk of our cost was the travelling. We got married in an all-inclusive resort, so all our guests food/alcool was covered. There were different wedding packages offered, at different costs, ranging from free to 2500$. There are fees to make it legal.
We were able to keep it under 10 000$, including:
– travelling : plane, hotel, food and drinks (we got the most expensive suite in the hotel)
– limo to get to airport
– rings (engagement, wedding set for me, his band)
– suit for him
– hair trial, hair and makeup
– legal fees in the Dominican
– legal fees here (official documents translated and approved by Embassy)
– horse and carriage
– wedding dinner/reception in a private room
– wedding certificate translation once back
My dress and accessories was our gift from my parents; and friends did the photography (photographer’s package weren’t up to my expectations for their price, over there) and videography (my dad is a pro videographer and really wanted to film it, even if we didn’t mind not having the video – very glad, now!).
I think that for us, it was the best way to go, no question about it. But it has to be for so many more reasons than the price, though.
– I always wanted a small ceremony, and going away gave me just that, without having to choose who to invite and who to let go – everyone was invited.
– We dreamed of the nice tropical flowers, weather, etc.
– We were ready to get married alone. People coming was a great bonus and it made us happy, but there would be no regrets if they could not have come. (although we might have paid for our parents if it had been impossible for them)
– We wanted to spend quality time with people that came. 1 week vacation with them before and after the wedding gave us just that – and we stayed a second week for our honeymoon.
– We loved the fact that there was almost no planning involved. We knew our wedding date and time, and what we were wearing. The rest was determined once on location, in a 1-hour meeting. The coordinator did an amazing job, and we didn’t have the headaches of planning for a year.
Sorry this was long. But it sums it up…