Post # 32
We skipped the engagement ring entirely. We were not raised in this tradition and diamonds don’t mean anything to me…To me they’re something to look at, possbily admire – similar to a museum piece or an item in an art gallery.
Post # 33
My ring is amethyst which has a mohrs rating of 7 – so it’s fairly strong. It has a bezel setting, so it won’t fall out, and I’m very hard on my hands (I work in an ER and I wash my hands constantly, and change gloves frequently). I never EVER cared what other people thought of my ring, and no bride should. If you worry about what the ring means to others, then you’re not thinking about your love with your partner that the ring symbolizes. Frankly, if he had given me a piece of string to wear around my finger I would have been just as happy.
Sadly, society dictates what brides ‘need’ but I say do what you want. If you like it, then who cares what anyone else thinks.
The World According to Jelly
Post # 34
If you want one, yes. If you don’t care, don’t bother. Some women like a ring w/3 stones…a larger blue center stone with two smaller stones on the left and right side, usually diamonds and is lovely. Others only want a wedding band. It’s about YOU.
They also make diamonds that are man made. They are real diamonds, just not natural diamonds. So they are probably more humane. They are put in a pressure treated chamber and instead of years of compression, viola….out comes a diamond in no time…which probably is why they are so much more reasonable. It’s hard to tell the difference. Your friends are not going to come inspecting your ring with a jeweler’s eyepiece. They see what they see.
Another idea is to buy an antique ring. They are lovely and very different.
Get your diamond…and let it be man made instead of a natural diamond. Either way it’s the same carbon!
Post # 35
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I have an aquamarine and I love it. I wanted something different and the diamonds were just way too expensive for what I wanted. While I am annoyed by the DeBeers thing and disturbed by blood diamonds, the real reason was the uniqueness of an aquamarine engagement ring, not the social implications.
If you do want an aqua or another gemstone, I highly recommend the vintage route.
Post # 36
Worth it- maybe, but necessary- no!! I have a diamond and I love it. That being said, the diamond itself doesn’t make me any more married or happy- it has nothing to do with our relationship, our marriage, our friendship. We had all of that before the diamond- and if I lost it tomorrow, we would still have it. So from that perspective- the diamond wasn’t worth anything! I happen to like diamonds, and I’m happy to have one, but I would be just as happy with any other stone. In fact- I like to switch things up- I have a few rings, and I enjoy mixing them!