- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
oh boy. . .here we go
I personally don’t like them. Guests should never be asked for money at a wedding reception.
But it is a cultural/geographic thing.
There are tons of other posts on this subject. None of which ended well.
Dollar dances are SUCH a regional thing. In some regions, they’re the norm, and in others, they’re a totally foreign concept.
Are they common in your area or in your circles?
I must not have searched correctly. Maybe I will just retract mine and try to find them. don’t want to piss people off over a simple question.
We had one at our wedding. We were originally going to only do the dollar dance for only 2 songs- but people kept lining up so I think our DJ ended up playing 6 songs!! Our guests really enjoyed getting to spend a little one on one time with us. Plus- we made bank!!
You are going to enflame people by using the word tacky, first of all.
Dollar dances as a regional and cultural thing. It is not my place to call a cultural tradition tacky, or any other insulting term. I will say, however, they are not something that are done in my social circle, and their use would be looke down on as a faux pas, mostly because it’s not part of my cultural or familial traditions.
I do not believe a guest should be asked to open their wallet for any reason at any event you are hosting. I believe that paying for the privilege of dancing with the bride or groom is bizarre, but that’s because it isn’t done at weddings in my circle.
You have to evaluate how your own guests would perceive this. Is it common in your area? Is it a foreign concept to most of your guests?
It’s definitely a cultural thing. I’ve seen them at Polish (er people of Polish descent) weddings and I personally think they’re a lot of fun. Also, at the weddings with the dollar dance, the B&G either donated the money to a charity (which they announced after the dance) or gave out something, like flowers and/or shots. IMO, this made it more about the tradition of getting to dance with guests (because it is really hard to dance with everyone) and less about the money. However, I can definitely see how people think it’s a money grab. If it’s not typically done in your family or circle, it won’t come off well. But if it is, then I don’t think there’s a problem with it. Guests probably expect it and budget accordingly (I know I do).
I’m thinking of doing a dollar dance, but worry about seeming tacky, so I’m thinking of either putting a ticket or dime at everyone’s seat that they can use instead of their own money.
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