(Closed) Are either of these my dress!?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Which Dress?
    Alabaster fit n flare : (63 votes)
    38 %
    Chiffon ballgown : (15 votes)
    9 %
    Neither : (90 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
    6741 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’ll be honest, I really think you can do better. Neither of those dresses wow me. They BOTH flatter you though, so I think just keep looking.

    Post # 4
    1999 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    To tell you the truth, you don’t sound like you want to get married in either of these dresses so I voted “neither”. You’ve got plenty of time still and while I understand “oversaturation” I think there’s something waiting for you out there that will take your breath away! Think of what you’d say to a client who doesn’t like anything. You’d probably tell her to try something on that she doesn’t like on the hanger just to see what it looks like on her, right? πŸ™‚ 

    If you feel like you need to pick one of these, I’d go with the first one. The second one makes you look a little top heavy for some reason, I think the bodice is a little awkwardly constructed. 

    Post # 5
    11693 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MadameX:  I love the silhouette of the first one on you.  I agree that it might not be ‘IT’ based on what you said.  I would wait until you see something that excites you, something you’re nervous to try on beacuse it might disappoint you, something that makes you want to dance πŸ™‚

    You’ll find ‘the one’ and you’ll know it πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
    2685 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think these are both good options, but I think it’s worth shopping around some more.  Of these, I like the first one more – the sillouhette is stunning on you and it’s such a timeless, elegant look.  If you’re not thrilled with either dress, you should definitely try some other styles to see if you prefer something different πŸ™‚

    Post # 7
    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @MadameX:  I definitely like #1 by far!  Gorgeous and very glamourous. 

    I don’t work in the industry, but I didn’t have an “OHMYGOSHTHISISIT” moment either. I had 3 top favorites and went home not making a purchase. I sat there and flipped thru the tons of pics my Maid/Matron of Honor took before eventually ruling two out.  To be honest, I still have to look back at those pictures to remind myself I made the right choice.  I don’t think everyone has that A-HA moment with their dresses and I think oversaturation could definitely play a big role in that.  You probably know by now the extent of your options for this season’s dresses, but with the amount of time you have to still place an order, I would be slightly worried about picking now and having all these new dresses come thru the door. Long story short, only purchase one of these two if you feel strongly enough about it that the poll’s results still wouldn’t stop you from purchasing it.  Too much temptation to not be totally personally sold on it!

    Post # 9
    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I like the ballgown better. 

    Post # 10
    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @MadameX:  Neither.  But DEFINITELY a fit and flare cut!  You have a great figure!

    Post # 11
    1186 posts
    Bumble bee

    @MadameX:  I think the first one is more flattering on you, quite classic. The ball gown kind of swallows your shape.

    Post # 12
    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014


    So, I’m obviously biased, and given you’re a consultant, you probably don’t need specific dress recommendations. But, your preferences sound pretty similar to mine- I knew I wanted fit and flare or mermaid, no lace, no pick ups, no big embellishments. I originally didn’t want any bling period. I ended up with the Sophia Tolli salvadora in alabaster (great colour BTW). It’s a pretty blingy dress, but I still think it’s classic looking. If you google it, it is very underwhelming on the model, but it’s gorgeous IRL. Based on your criteria sounds like it may be close to what you’re looking for.
    Good luck! 

    Post # 13
    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Is that first dress the La Sposa Fanal?  Such a gorgeous dress- one of my top contenders!  It looks amazing on you, but if it doesn’t feel like “the one” than don’t feel pressured to get it!  It is an excellent place to start though- that shape is dynamite on you!  πŸ™‚  

    Post # 14
    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I just want to say, you have an AWESOME figure missy πŸ™‚ Perfect curves and you look stunning in both dressses.I personally love the simplicity of either of them.

    Post # 15
    2858 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MadameX:  I voted “neither”.

    Not because the dresses don’t suit you – I think #1 in particular looks fantastic on you – but because no bride should have to convince herself that she likes her dress.

    I’m not saying you have to have an earthshattering emotional reaction to the dress (I didn’t), but just some kind of certainty that you’ve picked the right one  You could be right that the dress-saturation you’re experiencing may mean that you’ll never have an emotional response to the right dress – but that doesn’t mean that a decision based on logic is a bad one.

    By that I mean – even if you don’t feel overwhelmed by any dress, if there is one that “ticks all the boxes” for you then it could be the one. And it’s obvious that neither of these dresses tick all the boxes for you.

    Perhaps the thing that is missing is the uniqueness factor? As beautiful as both dresses are, they’re nothing I haven’t seen before and I’m sure you’ve seen them many more times than any of us have. Maybe you could concentrate on more obscure designers – or maybe deliberately look at designers that aren’t stocked by the store you work for, so the dresses feel new to you?

    Also, I’m not sure if I understand your reasoning for choosing a dress now. You seem to be saying that you want to pick one now to test it against the new dresses that come out, and then make a decision. Since you’re not going to make a final decision until the new dresses come out, why do you even need to pick one now? Is this because you at least want to have some options then – in case you don’t like anything – so these are fall-back options?

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