Post # 1
Hi Guys, I am having a really hard time choosing my dress! We’re probably not getting married until May-June 2015 but I work as a bridal consultant and want to pick my dress out early so that I can see some new styles come in before I order it and know that my head won’t be turned! So I probably won’t order right away, but I would like to be 90% sure of my dress for the next few months until I do order.
But I am not in love with either dress. I’m not in love with any dress. I’ve tried on plenty; I wonder if it is because I am oversaturated. I see dresses all day every day. They don’t feel special. I’ve spoken to other women in the industry who’ve said they had the same experience, and had to just choose their best option. But I don’t know which is the best option; the first dress is an alabaster satin fit n flare style. I like the way it makes my body look, and I feel very womanly (in a good way) in it, maybe more like myself, but it doesn’t make me feel like a bride.
The second dress is a narrow ballgown done in silk chiffon. I worry that it isn’t as flattering, or that it feels too girlish, but I do feel like a bride in it. I’m still trying to decide if I feel like I’m wearing a bride costume, or if it just feels like me as a bride.
I worry that neither dress is special enough; that maybe both are too expected. That being said, I do not like lace and I am not very keen on big embellishments. I don’t like pick-ups… So that kind of leaves me back where I started with these two as my best options. I know that with either dress, the accessories are going to be a big part of the look. Thoughts?
ETA: I re-read my post and realize I may be selling both gowns short. There are things that I really do love about each of them (the way the ballgown flutters when I walk, the color of the fit n flare, etc…), I just keep finding myself wondering if this is it- if I’m not going to have an “aha!” moment since I’m around dresses too much. I don’t expect to start crying, but it would be nice for a dress to feel “right”. Maybe this will just be the logical decision like some of my peers have described having made?
Post # 3
I’ll be honest, I really think you can do better. Neither of those dresses wow me. They BOTH flatter you though, so I think just keep looking.
Post # 4
To tell you the truth, you don’t sound like you want to get married in either of these dresses so I voted “neither”. You’ve got plenty of time still and while I understand “oversaturation” I think there’s something waiting for you out there that will take your breath away! Think of what you’d say to a client who doesn’t like anything. You’d probably tell her to try something on that she doesn’t like on the hanger just to see what it looks like on her, right? 🙂
If you feel like you need to pick one of these, I’d go with the first one. The second one makes you look a little top heavy for some reason, I think the bodice is a little awkwardly constructed.
Post # 5
@MadameX: I love the silhouette of the first one on you. I agree that it might not be ‘IT’ based on what you said. I would wait until you see something that excites you, something you’re nervous to try on beacuse it might disappoint you, something that makes you want to dance 🙂
You’ll find ‘the one’ and you’ll know it 🙂
Post # 6
I think these are both good options, but I think it’s worth shopping around some more. Of these, I like the first one more – the sillouhette is stunning on you and it’s such a timeless, elegant look. If you’re not thrilled with either dress, you should definitely try some other styles to see if you prefer something different 🙂
Post # 7
@MadameX: I definitely like #1 by far! Gorgeous and very glamourous.
I don’t work in the industry, but I didn’t have an “OHMYGOSHTHISISIT” moment either. I had 3 top favorites and went home not making a purchase. I sat there and flipped thru the tons of pics my Maid/Matron of Honor took before eventually ruling two out. To be honest, I still have to look back at those pictures to remind myself I made the right choice. I don’t think everyone has that A-HA moment with their dresses and I think oversaturation could definitely play a big role in that. You probably know by now the extent of your options for this season’s dresses, but with the amount of time you have to still place an order, I would be slightly worried about picking now and having all these new dresses come thru the door. Long story short, only purchase one of these two if you feel strongly enough about it that the poll’s results still wouldn’t stop you from purchasing it. Too much temptation to not be totally personally sold on it!
Post # 8
@MsMeow: I think some of my hesitation is that I’m realizing that the styles I like on myself (shapes like the first one) aren’t what my family or my fiance hope to see me in… I’m picking what I like, not what they like, but it is hard for me to know that they might not like what I’m choosing as much as I do. I have tried on so many dresses that I didn’t think I would like; some of them surprised me, but some of them I really did hate.
@Andthepupmakes3: That’s part of why I want to have a decision in the back of my mind before more dresses come out. I want to know that I’ll see new ones and still like my choice. If I change my mind at that point… then better before I order! I do want to order about a year out though, so I won’t see new dresses come in after this season. I see all sorts of things happen, better safe than sorry.
There is one dress I want to try on that I couldn’t try because of the sample size. It’s closer to the shape of the first but with some more detail than either of the current front runners. I am wondering if that’s the bit of excitement I need; ordering a dress I couldn’t try on.
Post # 9
I like the ballgown better.
Post # 10
@MadameX: Neither. But DEFINITELY a fit and flare cut! You have a great figure!
Post # 11
@MadameX: I think the first one is more flattering on you, quite classic. The ball gown kind of swallows your shape.
Post # 12
So, I’m obviously biased, and given you’re a consultant, you probably don’t need specific dress recommendations. But, your preferences sound pretty similar to mine- I knew I wanted fit and flare or mermaid, no lace, no pick ups, no big embellishments. I originally didn’t want any bling period. I ended up with the Sophia Tolli salvadora in alabaster (great colour BTW). It’s a pretty blingy dress, but I still think it’s classic looking. If you google it, it is very underwhelming on the model, but it’s gorgeous IRL. Based on your criteria sounds like it may be close to what you’re looking for.
Post # 13
Is that first dress the La Sposa Fanal? Such a gorgeous dress- one of my top contenders! It looks amazing on you, but if it doesn’t feel like “the one” than don’t feel pressured to get it! It is an excellent place to start though- that shape is dynamite on you! 🙂
Post # 14
I just want to say, you have an AWESOME figure missy 🙂 Perfect curves and you look stunning in both dressses.I personally love the simplicity of either of them.
Post # 15
@MadameX: I voted “neither”.
Not because the dresses don’t suit you – I think #1 in particular looks fantastic on you – but because no bride should have to convince herself that she likes her dress.
I’m not saying you have to have an earthshattering emotional reaction to the dress (I didn’t), but just some kind of certainty that you’ve picked the right one You could be right that the dress-saturation you’re experiencing may mean that you’ll never have an emotional response to the right dress – but that doesn’t mean that a decision based on logic is a bad one.
By that I mean – even if you don’t feel overwhelmed by any dress, if there is one that “ticks all the boxes” for you then it could be the one. And it’s obvious that neither of these dresses tick all the boxes for you.
Perhaps the thing that is missing is the uniqueness factor? As beautiful as both dresses are, they’re nothing I haven’t seen before and I’m sure you’ve seen them many more times than any of us have. Maybe you could concentrate on more obscure designers – or maybe deliberately look at designers that aren’t stocked by the store you work for, so the dresses feel new to you?
Also, I’m not sure if I understand your reasoning for choosing a dress now. You seem to be saying that you want to pick one now to test it against the new dresses that come out, and then make a decision. Since you’re not going to make a final decision until the new dresses come out, why do you even need to pick one now? Is this because you at least want to have some options then – in case you don’t like anything – so these are fall-back options?
Post # 16
@Audrey2_sings: It is actually The White One’s Tigris, which is cut from the same pattern as the Fanal but has a shorter train and is slightly lower grade material… But if I went with that dress I would probably order the Fanal as I like the train on it better!
@clairebbbear: I am really trying to purchase from my shop; I feel like my managers would be very hurt if I did not, and besides, I would really like to be able to take advantage of my employee discount for once 😛 But seriously, I am on a budget and that helps, and being able to do business with people I know and care about is a big deal to me. I have tried on dresses at other stores just so I don’t feel like I’m missing out, and I honestly haven’t found anything I like better. That being said, if I can’t shake this feeling I may look at a few more lines just to make sure I’m not missing out on anything.
My logic for choosing a dress now (if I can) is because I know it takes me forever to make decisions and I can be fickle, so I’d really like to feel confident in it when I order, not feel like it’s a choice I made a week before that won’t hold up to all of the new shiny dresses I will see between placing the order and wearing the dress.
Thanks for the advice ladies, you’ve given me a few more angles to come at this thing from. All of my coworkers (and ex-coworkers who were in the same spot) said they ended up just choosing dresses that they thought were the most flattering. I think the alabaster fit n flare fulfills that criteria, I just need to decide if I’ll love it once I’ve accessorized it, or if I need to find something with more detail. For referecne, this is the dress I was hoping to try on but could not because of the size of our sample; it is Casablanca 2104 and I do not have size 10 hips :'( It has some beading and some more fullness that I think will make it a little bit more dramatic, I’m thinking the shape would be similar to the alabaster fit n flare, but with a little bit more “oomph”. What do you guys think?