(Closed) Are fake flowers a “No, No” ????

posted 9 years ago in Flowers
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Now I know I am prolly going to get a bunch of negative feedback with what I’m about to post but everyone has a right to their honest opinion.

I am on a tight budget and honestly, dont see the point of getting fake flowers. If flowers aren’t  in your budget, then simply dont use them. I do feel, many…NOT ALL, but many fake flowers can come across as tacky. It’s one thing if it’s in your hair or on your clutch, but another when it’s placed in the center of a table where everyone is looking. I feel to purchase a quality silk flower that has realistic features, stems, centers etc. is rare and just as costly as purchasing natural flowers that are on the affordable side. When you take the short cut of buying cheap fake flowers, you will get what you pay for. If you are going to spend the extra money to purchase quality fake flowers over cheap fake flowers, I would just go for the real thing or take a different route.

For your bridesmaids, they dont need a big fancy bouquet. They can each carry a single flower such as a sunflower or longstemmed rose which would be under $8 per person. And for yourself, you can talk with a florist and find something beautiful and within your budget I’m sure. For your wedding day, you deserve to have a pretty bouquet of FLOWERS, not a handful of synthetic material. Notice I say pretty bouquet, not fancy, not expensive, just something that looks nice and a bit more natural and tasteful.

There are just so many options to work with. Having silk bouquets seems more practical to me than silk centerpieces.There are so many alternatives to flower centerpieces today that you don’t need to purchase a bunch of fake flowers. In any case, if you do decide to go with fake flowers, i would avoid artifical colors like blues, pinks, purples etc. and stay with whites and creams.

There is no rule that you have to have flowers at your wedding. Today, so many brides are coming up with unique DIY ideas to save money and express themselves. Fall screams pumpkins, gourds, indian corn, romantic candle light, twigs, acorns…the list goes on and on.

 

The following post has some neat fall centerpiece ideas that do not include flowers. Just something to consider.

Fall Wedding Centerpiece Ideas

 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t like fake flowers myself.. and often, they can be just as expensive as the real thing, depending on the quality.  That being said, I don’t think it’s necessarily a “no-no”.  It’s your day… do whatever suits you.  It’s not REALLY gonna matter to anyone else… when guests think of your wedding day years later, they will not remember the flowers, but you will.

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

#1- I’ve learned to say “screw you” to wedding rules, etiquette, and shoulds. The only people who are really up on etiqutte are other brides, and even my engaged friends exlaim “I WISH I WOULDA THOUGHT OF THAT” when they see our offbeat invites or centerpiece ideas!

#2- Try to remember the centerpieces from the last wedding you went to. You can’t? Neither will your guests!

That being said I must agree with Kateski. Keep in mind this is MY opinion, and you really, really should do what you want on YOUR day. For our small budget, we’d rather use living centerpieces than fake flowers. I’m debating starting some potted herbs now OR we’ll use wheatgrass in birch vases, with some really cute numbers on sticks for table numbers/centerpieces. I also LOVE this idea from http://lindsaywierzbinski.com/diy2.htm and if it went with our eco theme more I’d be all over it! The bottom line is that it is your day and while it’s not everyone’s preference, nothing ever is so you should do what you want!

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Do what you can afford.  Like the previous ladies have said.  Its all about what you feel is best for your wedding and NOT what others will think.  Someone frowned at me when I said we were doing our own flowers for the wedding, including the alter arrangements.  I simply asked her “would you like to pay for them?”  and when she replied No, I said oh, I didnt think so.  I really cant see spending hundreds of dollars on flowers when they will die the next day.  The artificial flowers are not that expensive.  I started buying them months ago and I make sure to use the 40% off coupons from Michaels and AC Moore.  I watched for their sales for certain flowers… they were 40-50% off.  Who said there was a rule… if you cant afford real flowers then you shouldnt have them at all?  How dare they???  You are a bride just like the rest of us.  Everyone has different taste and preferences.  Think about it this way… the last wedding you went to… do you remember anything about the wedding?  What did that brides bouquet look like?  How about the invitaions… do you remember them?  I cant remember anything about the weddings I attended or were even in.  Besides, if your guests are there to critique everything then shame on them.  In these hard times, you have to be practical and think outside the box.  Best wishes.  

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel like you are always going to find people who think everything against what they like is a “no-no”. At the end of the day they aren’t the ones at your wedding so just do what makes you happy and not worry about if it is a no-no or not

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m struggling with this issue right now. On one hand the wedding industry complex is screaming at me that it has to be real flowers. The logical me is saying “You are going to spend hundreds on flowers that will DIE in a few days! Are you stupid!?” Then I think that artificial flowers can be reused or sold after the wedding which makes the cost ok with me. 

It’s all about what you like. I told my mom the idea and she said she wanted fresh flowers and I told her that I wasn’t paying for something that would die by the next morinng. So she said she would pay for my bouquet and ceremony flowers.

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m going to have to agree with Kateski. If you are trying to save money, I don’t think it’s worth it to go all fake – there are much better options. I’m a bio major and some of the fake flowers out there are like weird zombie hybrids of things, and it hurts my brain a little bit (but that’s a personal issue 🙂 )

My suggestion would be keep your bouquets small, and mix in some nicer fake daisies with some real in-season flowers. Florists have put up with weirder requests I’m sure.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m having a real touch floramatique bouquet for my elopement destination wedding but if I had a wedding wedding I would consider center pieces made of fake flowers or real touches and then at the end of the day gather them all up and create a huge bouquet to display in home forever.   The real touches are abosolutely gorgeous! 

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it’s a matter of budget. I mean in some cases yes. Like peonies. Every florist here is telling me that peonies are basically dead by the second week of June and I would have to pay double for them. That’s not in my budget but I want peonies damnit. So I have been looking at other options. Real touch peonies are awesome looking and I found out about cabbage roses that look like peonies.

My biggest struggle is not budget, it’s the waste factor after the wedding. Sure, real flowers are pretty and smell good but they die. They turn brown and die. They get thrown in the trash and are never seen again. That’s such a waste of money to me. I seriously can’t stomach spending $200 on my bridal bouquet that will be dead before I get back from my honeymoon. If my mother wants to spend and waste her money then fine. For me? Nope. That’s why I won’t spend thousands on a dress because if I did, I would wear my wedding dress everywhere after the wedding. I’m talking about going grocery shopping, working out, picking up my daughter from school, going to work, ect I would get my money’s worth out of that dress. lol

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think I’m going to have to use fake flowers for centerpieces, and it has nothing to do with the budget (because I’m sure to get the look I want, I’ll spend a pretty good amount on realistic fake flowers). The problem for us is the reception venue doesn’t allow anyone in to set up until one hour before the reception starts- so 6 pm. Our florist can’t deliver to the restaurant that late, but they can’t drop the flowers off earlier either because our venue won’t/can’t store them! (It’s Paula Deen’s restaurant.) So our other option would be to have them delivered to the ceremony location, where they could then be transported over to the reception venue after the ceremony, but our wedding is in August and if they’re left in a hot car that long… they’ll wilt. So, because of this sort of weird situation, we’re probably going to use nice fake flowers, make the arrangements beforehand, keep them in cars at the ceremony location, and have someone run them over to set them up before the reception starts. There was just no real way we could figure out how to use real flowers for centerpieces without them wilting. (The bouquets and flowers in the chapel will be real though, since there’s no issue with storing them.)

That being said, if we can’t find fake flowers that look real or nice enough, I’m not opposed to considering other centerpiece options. I’m willing to spend the money on nice ones since I was going to spend the money on real flowers to begin with, but if they still look obviously artificial and fake, I’ll just figure something else out.

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

No, fake flowers are not a “no no”, I’ve seen some GORGEOUS ones where you really couldn’t tell the difference. But it’s the difference of actually doing your research & finding good ones. If you would have asked me this question a decade ago, I would’ve thought of my grandmother’s horrible dust covered not-even-close-to-looking-real roses in her dining room (they also smelled funky,lol). Fake flowers have sure come a long way….

We’ll be using both- fresh for bouquet/bout/parents corsages etc., and a mix of fresh & real touch in our centerpieces & arch decor. The real touch will be submerged or high out of reach, and I’d like to assemble them beforehand so it just makes more sense for me. Plus, I guarantee nobody will have a clue 🙂

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I gave my fresh flowers away the next day (we had a big bbq) everyone left with a bouquet (we had 17 bouquets and 4 big arrangements) It meant almost all the women who attended the wedding got to keep a bunch and because of the quality they lasted a week and then heaps of people dried them.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is the one topic that I do feel passionately about. Do what’s right for you, but personally, I truly dislike fake flowers.

I like potted plants or just candles or DIY or paper flowers or no centerpieces at all, but not the fake flowers that are supposed to look real.

I never understand why people say “flowers will die” when your food will turn to poop! Is the ephremeral beauty of flowers not worth it? Yes, you can keep fake flowers afterwards but they look fake! Part of having a wedding is that it’s ephremeral—it’s one day and the food will turn to poop, the flowers will die, and music will be nothing but a memory. And one day you will die! Life is ephremeral!

@Miss Tatoo, I truly believe you need to keep shopping around—I had a peony bouquet, mixed with garden roses, no other flowers—in JULY, in New York City, for $85. If I can find a peony bouquet in New York, from a florist, and in July, surely you can find something around $100 in Pittsburg in early June, which is prime peony season. They may have to ship from Michigan or somewhere more North, but it will be available.

 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

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@olive25: I completely agree, I just dont like them either, I would rather put some green leaves in a vase, pick wild flowers, potted plant or candles.

Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

 for real flowers  an to save money SAMS CLUB —- have to wrap your own but a fun thing to do with your bridesmaids was just at a friends wedding and hers were PERFECT we had fun doing them the night before she had 5 bridesmaids and a toss   that we made up —  she bought the bouts an mothers and hers  seperate at a local florist all put together  but it saved  her money that way  she used all white roses an calla lilliys  she even had stems left to put on an around the cake it turned out beautiful an didnt cost a whole lot i even think we laid a few stems on her card table

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