Post # 1
Is it tacky to not have favors at a wedding? I’m not willing to spend much on favors, and so I feel as though anything within the budget is tacky and personally, I do not like clutter, so if I personally were receiving candles or picture frames, etc., quite honestly they might just be thrown away.
I have thought about edible favors, however we’re already having an hour of appetizers, a large buffet, a delicious cake and groom’s cake, as well as 5 hours open bar. I think more sweets might just be overkill.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I’m struggling with this as well. I don’t think they’re necessary at all. I’ve been to a couple weddings without favors, and what they did instead was donate money that they would have donated towards favors to a charity of their choice, and put little cards at the table. I thought that was a nice idea.
Post # 4
They’re not necessary at all! We’re having them, but it’s personal choice. I’ve never missed them at any wedding without them, and the Jordan almonds aren’t exactly what makes the wedding! 🙂
Post # 5
Miss Manners on wedding favors:
“Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention. You owe them only the hospitality of the occasion.”
Post # 6
A lot of guests just throw favors away if it isn’t edible. Just sayin.
it’s a nice gesture, but totally not necessary.
Post # 7
We’re doing something small that will suite our guests to a T because we want to. I don’t think it’s a requirement at all! If you decide to do it, I think it should be because you really want to, and make it fun! It shouldn’t be stressful
Post # 8
I actually prefer when there aren’t any favors, I get annoyed when I have to bring coasters with the wedding date on them home with me.
Post # 9
Nope. I can tell you right now out of the last 5 weddings I have been to, I have thrown 4 favors in the trash. The fifth one had a candy buffet so that was awesome. The other 4? I don’t want personalized anything with a couples name and wedding date hanging around the house.
1. Personalized wine bottle opener. I use to be a server and I have like a million of them. I didn’t need another one with their names engraved all over it.
2. Personalized coasters.
3. Personalized photo frames that said “I had so much fun at X and X’s wedding on XXXXX” It would have been nice if I had a photo with the bride, but she ended up too drunk to even greet her guests.
4. Personalized tin cans with mints. Thanks for the mints but I don’t need the tin case with your wedding date on it.
Post # 10
No, like you said..you are already providing a night of entertainment. I have heard of people providing cake to go boxes, and having their guests take extra cake home (as a favor)
Post # 11
I have countless tiny boxes of jordan almonds and jellybeans collecting dust on a bookshelf, that i feel too guilty to throw away. I also have a couple sets of personalized coasters.
I think we might do favors for the very few kiddies that will come to the wedding and that’s it.
Post # 12
Skip them. Unless it’s edible, I’m apt to leave it behind at the wedding. I really don’t need another mini picture frame, “2 peas in a pod” salt and pepper shakers, monogrammed coasters, etc.
Post # 13
I know they’re played out, but we’re doing the beer coozie thing. We come from a long line o’ beer drinkers and hell you can use it at the wedding. :o)
But to each her own!
Post # 14
Our reception is going to be at a vineyard. Included in the cost of our rental is the wine glasses (that say the name of the vineyard on it) and the guests get to keep those glasses. I’m not planning on doing anything aside from those glasses, but just need to figure out the best way to communicate to the guests that they get to keep those glasses.
Post # 15
Totally not necessary. As other posters have said, any non-edible favors I’ve received have ended up in the trash. If it’s not something that you’re excited about doing, I say just skip them. (I wouldn’t be offended as a guest if there were no favors, edible or not. Like you said, you’re already throwing an awesome party!)
Post # 16
Thanks for the feedback everyone! It makes me feel a lot better about things!
@Sundrop – could you maybe make cute gift tags to put on the glasses and tie them on with ribbon or something? Not sure how many guests – that could become a pretty big project!