(Closed) Are gemstone rings suitable engagement rings?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

if i hadn’t recieved my grandmother’s ering i would have wanted a gemstone simply because i am against diamonds that aren’t vintage(i.e.; am against new ones being dug up).

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Sapphire is very hard and definitely suitable for an engagement ring. They come in many colors too, which makes them really popular nowadays!

Also, colored moissanite is a great option too because it is second in hardness only to diamond.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club

I have a sapphire e ring and I looooove it! I’ve blogged about it twice now :).

I’m clumsy and break everything so I didn’t want something that could chip. Diamonds are a 10 on the hardness scale, but sapphires are a 9 and mine has been just perfect.

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have a sapphire engagement ring and I love it so much!  I always felt like diamonds were one of those things I was told that I should want but never really did.  Add into that the problem with finding a truly conflict-free diamond, which was very important to me, and I just told the then BF, now Fiance to get me a gemstone ring.  He got me this ring in all blue sapphires and I LOVE it.  He even bought the carbon offset tax.  It’s like he knows me!  :p

And, as far as practicality is concerned, the only things harder than sapphires are diamonds, so I’m pretty sure my ring is durable.  I’ve been wearing it practically 24-7 since I got it in December and have not had any issues.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have tanzanite and that’s the biggest downfall of it that it is soft.  I have to be super careful, consequently I hardly wear it.

Post # 23
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Busy Beekeeper

@tiny tuna: Sapphires can be just as expensive, if not more so than a diamond. A padparadscha for example can command thousands of dollars a carat.

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have an emerald cut emerald as my e-ring (my birthstone, plus I am a geologist and I think a hunk of carbon is pretty boring).  Mohs is 7.5-8 for the beryl family (emeralds, aquamarines) but the structure of the mineral makes it very sensitive to heat.  Make sure that if you have any prong work or soldering done on the ring that the stone is removed or otherwise protected.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

I have a ruby ring that has been in my family for close to 100 years. It is still in near perfect condition.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

DEFINITELY.  I honestly preferred a gemstone ring, though I got a diamond because that was what was in the incredibly unique ring he found for me.  I’d like to have sapphires in my wedding band.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I, too, have a sapphire e-ring, and love it dearly. It did take some convincing to get my Fiance to believe that it was okay to get me something other than a diamond.  My wedding band is diamonds, which made him feel better (and is sparkly, so I really have the best of both worlds).

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i too have a sapphire gemstone e-ring and i love it….its held up for me so far…i loved that it didn’t break our bank and it looks unique and fits me perfectly!! ๐Ÿ™‚  i never cared for diamonds or the typical rings you see in the wedding section of the jewelry store…no offense to anyone else!! to each their own ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Of course! I have a garnet and it’s held up well–I mean, the jeweler chipped it when I had the setting tightened so I have a different stone than the original one, but I haven’t had any problems with durability. I’ve been wearing it for two years now. Avoid pearls and opals, as they’re pretty soft. My stone is a rhodolite garnet, which is about a 7-7.5 on the Mohs scale.

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have a pearl and knew even when I hinted (subtly, of course) to my now-FI that I wanted one that it would be a hard ring to maintain.  His jeweler told us I’d probably need to replace the pearl every few years as it will get banged up no matter how careful I am (and I’m clumsy).  Still, I love my ring, and know that it isn’t the exact stone that matters – it’s our vows – so I’m okay with replacing it.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck, whatever you or your BF choose!

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I picked sapphires. I didn’t like diamond but like what you said I want my stone to be sterdy so I don’t have to worry about damaging them. So I picked sapphires, which is a hard gem. I have them set in prongs though. I think bezel set will pbly help them hold up to the wear. 

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