Post # 1
Hey Bees! So, as soon as I got engaged I bought a set of pretty “getting ready robes” for my four bridesmaids, thinking it would be a nice gift and also make for a couple nice pics of us before the wedding (no requirement to wear them the whole time). However, I came across some boards on other sites where brides were HATING on the robes, saying it’s ridiculous and bossy to tell your bridesmaids what to wear when getting ready. I never really followed wedding sites before getting engaged, so I’m a little out of the loop- is it considered a faux pas to give bridesmaids getting ready robes? Be honest, I won’t mind! 🙂
Post # 2
I don’t think it’s bridezilla-y at all! I wouldn’t consider them a bridesmaid gift, but they’re fine to ask your girls to wear to get ready in! Bonus points if the robe is actually usable again! (the satiny pinterest ones everyone has fall apart after one wash)
That being said– I was in a wedding where the bride bought one size fits all satin robes for her Bridesmaids. They were graphically short on the tiniest girls and as a size 12, tall girl i had to wear leggings and a tank under mine and I felt like a obese monster.
Get covering robes and let girls bring leggings and shorts to wear with them if they want.
Be considerate and you’ll be fine!
Post # 3
I’m a bridesmaid in my BFFs upcoming wedding and I’d love to get one. I’m also engaged and I will probably get robes or some comfy pants/tanks for my bridesmaids/MOH, not as their gift just something extra
Post # 4
Robes are totally fine; as PP said make sure they actually fit all of your girls!
Post # 5
Agree with a PP,as long as they actually fit its fine!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
My girls and I all got ready seperately (I couldn’t afford to cover their hair and makeup, so I gave them the option of going to the salon of their choice or doing it themselves). However, we all got dressed together in the bridal suite and the photographer did a mini photoshoot of us there. Because we weren’t doing our ‘primping’ together robes didn’t cross my mind. Looking back though, I wish it had because it would have been cute for photos and we WERE changing, touching up lipstick, hanging out ETC!
Post # 7
I’m not a huge fan of matchy looks myself, but even I don’t think that having the matching robes automatically makes one a bridezilla.
So long as you follow the suggestions of PP and make sure the robes have good coverage, allow people to wear what they want with the robes, don’t present the robes as your only wedding party gift, and don’t get annoyed if any of your friends just wear the robes for your pictures, then I don’t see how anyone could get truly bent out of shape.
ETA: And definitely follow the lead of the post below this one and ask your friends what they would like to have embroidered or monogrammed on the robes if you intend on going that route. Also accept that some women may not want any embellishment on a robe at all.
Post # 8
As long as you don’t make them buy them, I think they are great. I talked to my bridesmaids before I bought them though.
The only negative feedback about them that I got was they didn’t want the robes to say “Bridesmaid” on them so that they could wear them again. With that said… a few of my girls aren’t married yet, so they didn’t want their maiden last name on them either so that they could still wear the robe after they got married. Ultimately, we settled on first names only and every one was super stoked about them!
Post # 9
I think they’re adorable. I didn’t do that myself, but they make cute photos, for sure!
Post # 10
I’m not a fan of them at all. At home before a night out I get dolled up whilst wearing a huge, comfy terry towelling dressing gown and I love it. It has a hood, is down to my ankles (I’m 5’8) and wasn’t cheap. I’d totally appreciate the gift though, and I’d happily wear them for photos, but that’s all. I wouldn’t consider them a waste of money if you’re going to take pictures, but I wouldn’t invest in them for any other reason either.
Post # 11
I actually just hate the idea. It’s a waste of money for me — I won’t ever wear it. I already have a couple robes that I actually picked out, that are my style/taste/comfortable for me, etc.
I also don’t consider something to be used as a prop for “cute getting ready photos” to be a gift, but that’s just me.
Post # 12
I collect dressing robes and love wearing them while getting ready in general so no I don’t think it’s annoying to do it for a wedding! I’d be wearing my own anyway. For my girls I had them custom made for their measurements in a nice fabric with vintage print, along with other gifts, but I did give them warning so they could bring whatever they wanted to wear underneath.
its just fun to drink bubs in fancy robes while primping. I don’t think it’s necessary or anything but I don’t get the hate.
Post # 13
It depends on your friends as to whether or not they will enjoy it, but it IS a prop for your wedding and not a gift for the girls. If you think they would like it make sure you get them the right sizes. Personally – I would do a big eye roll if I was asked to wear one, but I’d still suck it up for a friend and then bring it straight to donation after the wedding.
Post # 14
I really want to get mongramed ones but they are so expensive! I’m going to get matching necklaces from Etsy for them instead, My mom did get me a Glitzy bride hoodie to wear while I’m getting ready. I think they are really cute though!
Post # 15
Thanks for the feedback everyone! Good points by all- and to clarify, I don’t consider these “the” bridesmaid gift, they aren’t monogrammed and don’t say bridesmaid, and they are appropriately sized!