Post # 1
Since I’ve joined I’ve noticed many bees are getting heirloom rings from their SO or a family stone. I don’t know a single person in real life who has gone this route. All of the people I know chose to either design the ring themselves so it could be “theirs” and exactly what they wanted. How many people do you know chose to get an heirloom ring? If you went that route, what influenced your decision?
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE
I only know one person who has an heirloom ring and that’s my Future Sister-In-Law. Her FI had a couple of heirloom rings available to him (from his family) and chose the one he thought she would like. She kept it as is other than sizing it. It was a surprise proposal and I don’t know if they had ever talked about rings or what she liked, but it’s a round solitaire which you can’t really go wrong with.
Post # 3
I know one person with a heirloom ring. I only know this because she expressed that she would have wanted a gemstone of some kind personally over the heirloom diamond.
I have a heirloom ring that needs repaired. It was given to me in bad condition as far as the setting goes but all stones in good condition. It’s always been my hope to have it repaired (hopefully the setting can be salvaged or the metal reused to replicate) and I would not have minded it being used for my engagement ring. I gave my husband the option but honestly I prefered that he didn’t which he didn’t know. He wanted to go the route of us getting a new ring so we didn’t end up using the heirloom.
For me, my heirloom is unique to a set of very deep feelings that are extremely personal especially surrounding when I received it and how I’ve treasured it since. I didn’t want the meaning the ring already has to be overshadowed with the meaning of engagement or marriage. It’s just something separate to me and I’m glad it will stay that way.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas
My wedding rings are not heirloom, but I do have an heirloom ring from my grandmother. I would have loved to have used it as an engagement ring, but I totally understood my hubby’s desire to get me something else (he knew I’d be devastated if I lost my grandmothers ring).
I don’t really know of anyone in my social circle who has a heirloom ring as their wedding set.
Depending on the ring, and the relationship to the family, I think it can be a lovely thing.
Post # 5
I wear my heirloom stone for a RHR. I thought about letting Darling Husband use that for my wedding stone, but then I wouldn’t have the RHR! My RHR is sentimental because my grandmother had her mom’s stone reset and gave it to me.
I have a coworker who got her grandma’s wedding ring fixed. She moved that to her left hand, and moved the set from her husband to her right hand. I think it is a great idea.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
My mother gave me my grandmother’s ring (unsure if it was her engagement ring; she died when I was a baby), but it was on my wedding day, so not for use as my engagement ring.
Post # 7
my diamond is my grandmother’s but Darling Husband took the setting and traded it in towards my setting. he had the ring designed.
Post # 8
I’m rocking an heirloom stone! It’s FI’s great grandma’s on his mother’s side. He had the stone reset and we’ll probably use the smaller stones from the original setting for the wedding band. I’m very excited to be joining his family, so I’m thrilled it’s an heirloom stone. It’s also far bigger than something we’d spend money on ourselves (.84 carat old European cut) so it’s a treat to have a larger stone within our budget!
Post # 9
I think the bee is a minute representation of the ladies that prefer heirloom pieces.
Post # 10
I have a good friend who has an heirloom engagement and wedding ring set from her husband’s grandmother. She may be the only person I know who kept the rings exactly the same as they had been previously.
I have heirloom baguettes in my engagement ring, but we bought a new center stone (the original had been lost decades ago). We had a new setting made (although it’s pretty similar to the old setting).
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
Never met anyone with an heirloom ring in real life. My grandmother’s wedding set was very well-worn and wouldn’t have held up to another lifetime on someone else’s finger. I think like my grandmother, most people are buried wearing their only set.
I’m certain heirlooms will become more popular for the next generation though, so many people now are upgrading or buying multiple sets these days that they will have more jewelry to pass down.
Post # 12
greybee : I was given an heirloom ring. I would not say it was a choice. My husband was going to buy me an engagement ring in a style that I wanted ( I have always liked statement rings) I would have wanted a ring with a a pear shape cut or something like that. My husband told his family he was going to buy a ring for me. Apparently there was an engagement ring in the family that belonged to his great great grandmother that his family had. He proposed to me with it after it was given to him by his family. It was the right gold color that I wanted and it was a solitaire round cut. I did not know about the ring prior to the proposal.If I were to pick my own I would have picked something with stones along the side and maybe a different shape. So I really didn’t get a choice. I do like the ring but it was not like I contemplated others or had the opportunity to. I felt like I had no choice. I even told me husband I might want the stone in a different setting and his Dad freaked out about it and started staying I was going to wreck the ring. This made me very upset because it made me feel like the ring was not mine to change. I ended up not changing it at all but picking out my wedding ring . I picked very blingy to go with it. I think everything looks good together and I am happy. If I had a choice though I might have picked out my own style ring but again I just wanted to get married it was not all about the ring etc. My father in law also has made negative comments about me possibly siziing the ring ( he thinks this would wreck the ring also). It currently fits and not siziing was required. However if I do need it sized I am just going to do it and not tell him about it.
Post # 13
I only know one person. She used an heirloom diamond but got a new setting for it.
Post # 14
Yes, I just got engaged and recieved an heirloom from my fiance. (this was before I found this site or was even looking at wedding stuff)
I just let my landlord know this weekend and learned her ring is an heirloom too!
PS, both of ours were the original setting. Mine was touched up by a jeweler to ensure it wouldn’t degrade or break.
Post # 15
One of the side stones in my 3-stone ring is an heirloom diamond, but I’m the only one I know of in real life (in my generation, anyway) that has an heirloom ring – and honestly, it’s hard to even call it that since it’s just the diamond.