Post # 1
I guess I always assumed that most people took one since being on this site and experiencing my close friends and family get married but it seems to me that the general public isn’t really HM’ing anymore. I had an encounter with a sales girl at a store that I shop at that made me kind of think about this. Then I realized that she wasn’t the first person to make these comments so I’m curious as to what the norm is now.
Anyway, I went in to try on a specific dress that was put on hold from me at another branch of this same store. The girl and I got to talking and I told her that I wanted the dress to take with me on our anniversary trip to Mexico. DH was with me so I mentioned how we were married last October and would be going away to celebrate our one year. She asked if the Mexico trip was our delayed HM and I told her no, it was just for our anniversary. I said that we went to Bermuda for our HM and she seemed really surprised. She’s not the first person who I’ve had a similar exchange with. Even back when we were getting ready to go on our HM, a lot of strangers were surprised that we were taking the trip. It always seemed to me like that’s what you’re supposed to do, unless you have a reason why you can’t (money, time off, etc…).
What do you think? I know HM’s aren’t a thing of the past but are more and more people delaying theirs or opting not to take one all together? And is it really that strange to take a trip for your anniversary? I didn’t think so but apparently some of the people that I’ve encountered do. It’s actually kind of our goal to take a trip every year. I’m sure they won’t all be as elaborate as traveling to different countries but I think it would be nice to celebrate our anniversary in a different place each year.
Post # 3
we are skipping the honeymoon – using the money for a house instead.
We are planning on taking a trip to celebrate one of our anniversaries in the future
Post # 4
I don’t think so it probably depends on that person and their money situation. Nearly everyone I know takes one.
Post # 5
We took our honeymoon right away and definitely got the impression that this was, if not strange, then at the very least not assumed. The “and are you going on a honeymoon?” was like a followup to “Oh, you’re getting married! Great!”
I wonder if it’s part of the slow breakdown of the whole parents-paying-for-the-wedding tradition? If couples have to pay for their own entire wedding, I imagine it would be harder to then turn around and shell out for a honeymoon right away. But since we had lots of parental help with the money, the honeymoon was a no-brainer!
Post # 6
I don’t think anniversary trips are strange and I also think doing a delayed honeymoon is something that could occur because of finances and/or timing. We are going on a honeymoon but it’s not our dream location. We don’t have the money to go on the honeymoon we want so we’re staying in a condo in Destin for a week (for free!!) and then next year we’ll take an anniversary trip to St Lucia or Antigua
Post # 7
Personally, we aren’t having a honeymoon, but are going to take a trip next year on our anniversary. We just can’t afford it right now.
It isn’t common in our circle, we’re the odd ducks out, but I’ve noticed more on these boards that people are mentioning skipping the HM and taking a grand 1 year anniversary trip.
You should make a poll!
Post # 8
I still consider it the norm to take a HM. Obviously I know some people who have delayed or taken a mini-moon because of money, but the vast majority of people I know take something.
We also took an anniversary trip this year (New Orleans) I don’t think this is as common but I say if you have the means, it’s a great idea!
Post # 9
We are taking one… and of 5 weddings we are going to this year, each couple is leaving the day after their wedding for a honeymoon other than one couple. That couple is going away two weeks before their wedding due to timing conflicts.
I think it depends on a lot of things! Able to get time off work/cost/etc. I’m not sure if we will be doing anniversary trips or not, but I don’t think it is strange to do it!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
More and more people are not taking honeymoons because they simply can’t afford it; with the average cost of a wedding well over $20,000 these days, I can understand the trend.
I don’t think they’re falling out of style, just falling outside the budget. I’ve had many people who were shocked that we are taking a 2 week honeymoon.
Post # 11
In my experience, honeymoons are becoming far less common. Actually, I only know one couple who actually went on one. Most people we know (ourselves included) chose to use the money for something else (generally more practical and boring like a house, furniture, etc.). Even the couple who took one went on a very small, close, inexpensive trip. Most of the older, married couples I know did go on a honeymoon of some sort. I’ve never thought about it, but, based on that, I guess you could say they’re a thing of the past.
As far as anniversary trips, I don’t many people who’ve taken them. So, I guess they’re somewhat uncommon, but I think they’re a great idea. We always planned on taking one later because we’ll (hopefully) be able to afford to take the trip we actually want rather than the cheaper version we could have done then.
Post # 12
i think honeymoons are no longer always assumed to be directly after the wedding. i can think of 4 weddings ive been to recently where the honeymoon has been at least 2 months after the wedding, one was actually 3 months before.
but then i know a lot of teachers, and they all got married in the fall/spring, so they go when they can go.
we are *hoping* to go right after the wedding (finances will decide that in october) and i have noted a fair amount of surprise concerning our plan …
Post # 13
@iarebridezilla: I think you’re right. I was very blessed that, even at my age, my parents generously paid for my very expensive wedding. I was then able to use some of my savings to fund our amazing Caribbean honeymoon.
@UpstateCait: We took a trip for our first anniversary, too! We went to St. John as sort of a little “second honeymoon.” However, because we spent more than twice as much on our honeymoon than we did on our anniversary trip, we definitely experienced a bit of a let down in terms of the length of our trip, overall ambiance, accommodations, and service. Still, I’m very glad we had the opportunity to go. I’m like you in that I wish we could go somewhere wonderful every year, too!
Post # 14
Thanks for the feedback.
I added a poll but don’t judge me on the lame options. I’m trying to be sneaky and post this at work. 🙂
Post # 15
I think maybe it’s less common to have the disposable income that allows people to take elaborate (or even, any) honeymoons and anniversary trips. But, if you’ve got it, that’s great, go for it! It’s not like people are choosing to not go on a trip because they’re boycotting airlines or they’ve fallen out of fashion or anything! 🙂
Post # 16
Just about everyone I know who has gotten married in the past three years has taken a honeymoon. We definitely did! And we’d love to take an anniversary trip, we just don’t have the time off from work or extra cash right now.