(Closed) Are HM's not that common anymore? / Are anniversary trips strange?

posted 5 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: What's your opinion on HM's and anniversary trips?
    I went on a HM and so did most couples I know. : (67 votes)
    46 %
    I did not go on a HM but most couples that I know did. : (6 votes)
    4 %
    Most couples that I know have not gone on a HM (myself included). : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Anniversary trips are great if you have the means to take them. : (59 votes)
    40 %
    Anniversary trips are strange if you've already taken a HM. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Anniversary trips are a waste of money if there are other things that you can put the funds towards. : (2 votes)
    1 %
    I'm indifferent on anniversary trips. : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5080 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    we are skipping the honeymoon – using the money for a house instead.

    We are planning on taking a trip to celebrate one of our anniversaries in the future 

    Post # 4
    Member
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t think so it probably depends on that person and their money situation. Nearly everyone I know takes one.

    Post # 5
    Member
    4416 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We took our honeymoon right away and definitely got the impression that this was, if not strange, then at the very least not assumed. The “and are you going on a honeymoon?” was like a followup to “Oh, you’re getting married! Great!”

    I wonder if it’s part of the slow breakdown of the whole parents-paying-for-the-wedding tradition? If couples have to pay for their own entire wedding, I imagine it would be harder to then turn around and shell out for a honeymoon right away. But since we had lots of parental help with the money, the honeymoon was a no-brainer!

    Post # 6
    Member
    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t think anniversary trips are strange and I also think doing a delayed honeymoon is something that could occur because of finances and/or timing. We are going on a honeymoon but it’s not our dream location. We don’t have the money to go on the honeymoon we want so we’re staying in a condo in Destin for a week (for free!!) and then next year we’ll take an anniversary trip to St Lucia or Antigua

    Post # 7
    Member
    2077 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Personally, we aren’t having a honeymoon, but are going to take a trip next year on our anniversary.  We just can’t afford it right now.

    It isn’t common in our circle, we’re the odd ducks out, but I’ve noticed more on these boards that people are mentioning skipping the HM and taking a grand 1 year anniversary trip.

    You should make a poll!

    Post # 8
    Member
    2379 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I still consider it the norm to take a HM. Obviously I know some people who have delayed or taken a mini-moon because of money, but the vast majority of people I know take something.

    We also took an anniversary trip this year (New Orleans) I don’t think this is as common but I say if you have the means, it’s a great idea!

    Post # 9
    Member
    813 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We are taking one… and of 5 weddings we are going to this year, each couple is leaving the day after their wedding for a honeymoon other than one couple. That couple is going away two weeks before their wedding due to timing conflicts.

    I think it depends on a lot of things! Able to get time off work/cost/etc. I’m not sure if we will be doing anniversary trips or not, but I don’t think it is strange to do it!

    Post # 10
    Member
    3476 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    More and more people are not taking honeymoons because they simply can’t afford it; with the average cost of a wedding well over $20,000 these days, I can understand the trend. 

    I don’t think they’re falling out of style, just falling outside the budget.  I’ve had many people who were shocked that we are taking a 2 week honeymoon. 

    Post # 11
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    1677 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    In my experience, honeymoons are becoming far less common. Actually, I only know one couple who actually went on one. Most people we know (ourselves included) chose to use the money for something else (generally more practical and boring like a house, furniture, etc.). Even the couple who took one went on a very small, close, inexpensive trip. Most of the older, married couples I know did go on a honeymoon of some sort. I’ve never thought about it, but, based on that, I guess you could say they’re a thing of the past. 

    As far as anniversary trips, I don’t many people who’ve taken them. So, I guess they’re somewhat uncommon, but I think they’re a great idea. We always planned on taking one later because we’ll (hopefully) be able to afford to take the trip we actually want rather than the cheaper version we could have done then.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1513 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i think honeymoons are no longer always assumed to be directly after the wedding. i can think of 4 weddings ive been to recently where the honeymoon has been at least 2 months after the wedding, one was actually 3 months before.

    but then i know a lot of teachers, and they all got married in the fall/spring, so they go when they can go.

    we are *hoping* to go right after the wedding (finances will decide that in october) and i have noted a fair amount of surprise concerning our plan … 

    Post # 13
    Member
    11274 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @iarebridezilla:  I think you’re right. I was very blessed that, even at my age, my parents generously paid for my very expensive wedding. I was then able to use some of my savings to fund our amazing Caribbean honeymoon.

    @UpstateCait:  We took a trip for our first anniversary, too!  We went to St. John as sort of a little “second honeymoon.”  However, because we spent more than twice as much on our honeymoon than we did on our anniversary trip, we definitely experienced a bit of a let down in terms of the length of our trip, overall ambiance, accommodations, and service. Still, I’m very glad we had the opportunity to go.  I’m like you in that I wish we could go somewhere wonderful every year, too!

    Post # 15
    Member
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think maybe it’s less common to have the disposable income that allows people to take elaborate (or even, any) honeymoons and anniversary trips. But, if you’ve got it, that’s great, go for it! It’s not like people are choosing to not go on a trip because they’re boycotting airlines or they’ve fallen out of fashion or anything! 🙂

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    14026 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Just about everyone I know who has gotten married in the past three years has taken a honeymoon. We definitely did! And we’d love to take an anniversary trip, we just don’t have the time off from work or extra cash right now.

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