Post # 1
Ok, bees – I need your help! Here it goes:
I hadn’t even thought of the gift registry until I started working on our website. I had heard of honeymoon registries in the past and I think they are super cool. My fiance and I have been living together for 7 years and we have accumulated a bit, but we could always add more basics (towels, kitchenware, etc.)
The thing is – we are not going on a long honeymoon, but a short getaway close to where we are having the wedding. It’ll be the next year that we go on a full 2 week vacation. Would you, as a guest, find this rude to wait a whole year to use your gift or. . . . ?
I could go both ways, but I need someone to break the tie, ha ha I have not been invited to a wedding where honeymoon registries were done so I have no one else to ask. It’s one or the other 🙂
Post # 2
This is hottly debated on here. I say yay. Others say no, don’t ask for money because of fees. Its a very small fee that I would rather have taken out than possibly have checks stolen at the wedding… Sorry to say you will still probably get a 50/50
Post # 3
I don’t know if it’s different where you are but in Australia you can set up the honeymoon registry at the travel agent (if you’re using one) and guests go there in person before the wedding to donate with no fees attached. My cousin did that for her wedding and I preferred that than giving cash in a card.
Post # 4
yep – we’ve got one through Trailfinders, but I think there are a lot of companies out there that do them. It just made sense for us as we sort of have everything already! Our friends did it for their wedding last year too.
As for waiting a year, I personally wouldn’t be bothered. Another set of friends who got married in 2012 asked for John Lewis vouchers and they literally just spent the last of them last year so it’s swings & roundabouts really!
Post # 5
I think it depends… to JUST ask for money I personally hate (to have a money option is fine but I dont like being told to give something im uncomfortable with) however a registry for experiance days and tavel items or honeymoon clothing wouldnt bother me at all
Post # 6
I personally have no problem with honeymoon registries, but I’ve see some people get super offended by them on here. I think especially the older generations have a hard time with them. If you’re going to have one, I think a small traditional registry is good too to give people options.
Post # 7
Honeymoon registry or old school registry are the same in my opinion…asking for cash however, not a fan!
Personally, I always give cash…if the couple’s asking specifically for cash though, it irks me!
Post # 8
I think it might be regional. Where are you located, generally? I’m in the US, in the midwest. I have never seen anyone have a honeymoon registry. But honestly, most people give money for a wedding gift. The gift registries are used primarily for the shower.
Post # 9
I’m in Australia and it’s fairly common to give money instead of a physical gift to an established couple l. My Darling Husband and I lived together for 6 years before we married and had bought and furnished a house. We used Not Another Toaster, which lets you customise your registry and is quite well priced . Our guests loved it- we had flights to our honeymoon destination, Tasmania, a fancy dinner, brunch as well as things like fine China to add to our home. We did still get a few gifts, but most guests chose to use the registry.
Post # 10
I don’t love the idea of asking for cash because I’m a fairly traditional person, but I think a HoneyFund is sufficiently in a gray enough area that it’s fine. Go for it!
The only time I’ve given the side eye is when couples have very swanky, decadent weddings and then have honeyfunds for very exotic locations like Bora Bora. (I’ve seen this twice.) In those cases, I think it reads as a bit excessive. I’m happy to help a couple that paid for their own wedding, or wouldn’t have a honeymoon at all, or to help a couple make their honeymoon a bit nicer. But to help a very privileged couple with an expensive wedding have an even more privileged honeymoon? Don’t love that. Perhaps that’s unfair of me?
Post # 11
We had a honeymoon registry, and multiple people bought off it. It ends up just being cash that gets put in our bank account, but it’s paying for all of our food and some of our hotel during our honeymoon, so we’re definitely grateful!
Post # 12
I’m a fan of them but won’t be having one. My Mother-In-Law thinks they are tacky and asked us not to have one, it was an easy fight for me to give up.
It’s a pretty heated debate on the bee so just go with your gut and what feels right for you.
Post # 13
My mother taught me to never ask someone for money.
Post # 14
I think it’s fine. You ask for a gift and in a way, that is asking for money.
I would rather give the couple something I know they can use, and will use. If that means I help fund a honeymoon, awesome! If they want cash but they have been together forever and want to help pay off debt of the wedding. SWEET! I don’t want to give a couple something that will sit around collecting dust.
Post # 15
My fiance and I set up a registry through Zola because we could combine a traditional registry and honeyfund. (We picked Zola because you can choose to cover the fees yourself rather than put it on your family/friends, and the fees were the lowerst I found.) I was a little hesitant because we have a lot of older, very traditional family members but it ended up being a huge hit. I broke the honeyfund out into different “experiences” so people felt like they were really gifting us something rather than just cash (dinner at different restaurants, drinks on the beach, ziplining, etc). People had so much fun with it! Even my grandma opted to gift us a few nights at one of the hotels and then bought us matching beach towels to go with it. Everyone at my shower told me what a great idea the honeymoon registry was and how much fun they had trying to decide what to get us! Very few people ended up picking one of the items off the traditional regsistry.