Post # 1
And if so, are they generally included in your invitation package? We’re having our invitations custom designed, so I don’t know if I have to ask the designer to include them, whether to expect to pay extra, whether she’ll automatically include them, etc. I had given no thought to whether we are having them/not having them, but a recent post brought them to mind. Are they necessary? Our wedding is on the formal side, and the invitations themselves will be formal as well.
Post # 3
i feel like if they’re formal, then they are usually used. i don’t think people will be judging you if you don’t have them though.
Post # 4
I think etiquette wise they are “necessary” but unless you are doing formal invitations you would be fine without them. I really wanted them to do the names of everyone invited on the inside envelope but they didnt make inner envelopes for the invitation size I chose (8×8 pocketfold). I went without and it was fine!
Post # 5
I went without because I had them custom made by an ETSY vendor and she didn’t have them included in her price. Plus my invites are more on the fun graphic side and not formal. I tied all the pieces together with a ribbon which really made them feel more expensive and special. I also didn’t worry with listing the names of the guests again as I wrote them on the outside. For example, Miss Jane Doe and Guest. Or Mr. & Mrs. Doe and family.
Keep in mind the more items you add to the invitation the more the invites will cost themselves and weigh more meaning more postage.
Post # 6
I remember reading somewhere that inner envelopes were originally included because your mail used to be pretty beaten up in days gone by (we’re talking a long, long time ago). I think they’re pretty unnecessary these days and are just another way to get you to part with more money.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Inner envelopes are not necessary, and they are not generally included if it doens’t say one way or another. They’re a must-have for a super formal/traditional inivtation, but totally optional for everything else. We wanted to add them for some extra color, but decided not to for cost.
Post # 8
No they are not necessary. Outer envelopes were invented in the era when (upper class) folks had servants who were assigned to hand deliver the invites (which in the modern day is considered taboo for some unknown reason that no one will explain) through any kind of weather. The outer envelope was used to protect it from the elements. When it reached its destination and was given to another servant, they discarded the outer envelope so that the master of the house would never see what the invite went through on the way there. Most people have moved past that and realize that they can’t control the weather or the post office, even though mail still gets beat up just as badly today. In which case, it’s perfectly acceptable (and becoming increasingly popular) to skip the inner envelope since it serves no purpose. Even alot of the invite catalogs are not including them anymore, even with their most formal invites. There is no reason that you can’t list everyone who is invited on the outer envelope, which should be done anyway.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the responses! I was aware of the original reasoning behind inner envelopes, but it’s good to hear that other people also think it’s okay to discard them.
@vintage2010: I like the idea of tying the pieces together with a ribbon! I bet that looked really cute 🙂
Post # 10
@Selene – thanks for sharing that! I never really knew why inner envelopes were there – I guess you learn something new everyday!! =D
Post # 11
My wedding is extremely formal and traditional and we are spending over $4,000 on a beautiful letterpress invitation suite. My mom is a stickler for formality and even we are foregoing the inner envelope because we just don’t see the point. It’s more to have calligraphed, higher postage and for what purpose?!
Post # 12
My invites are formal but not super-formal, but I personally think inner envelopes are a waste of paper and didn’t want to include them. The only issue you may run into is addressing the invites, because if you want to invite an “and guest,” then you’ll have to write that on the outer envelope. According to traditional etiquette, this is a no-no, but I just didn’t really care. It’s all personal preference.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
unless you really would like to have them, i don’t think you need them, even for a formal wedding. i feel like those days of expecting one are bygone (but i could be wrong). of course if you want them and it’s in your budget, go for it! as to whether your invite designer will include them, it probably depends on each designer.
Post # 14
Well I don’t think your guest care if you have inner envelopes but I decided to use them and I’m glad I did. There was a huge rainstorm and snowstorm around the time I mailed them and my sister said that outer envelope was so muddy that if it didn’t have another envelope inside they would have gotten wet.