(Closed) Are Inner Envelopes Still Needed?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Personally, I’m not doing inner envelopes.  They seemed like a wast of money that could be used elsewhere. 

Post # 4
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I really don’t think that inner envelopes are that important as long as you make it perfectly clear on the RSVP which guests are and are not invited.

Post # 5
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4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I love love love vellum envelopes! They’re so pretty and definintely something I considered til I found what I’m REALLY going to use (it’s a secret til I can do a DIY on it).

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Inner envelopes are not needed. I wanted them but couldn’t find anything between A7s and the invitations in size, and I’d already had our return addresses printed on the envelope flap! You can buy larger envelopes (size A7.5) if you want to, but I don’t think they are strictly necessary–you should indicate who is invited on the outer envelope, anyway 🙂

Post # 7
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2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I didn’t do innner envelopes because the one’s I purchased didn’t come with them (and because I never thought about it). The only problem that came up was when I was inviting a friend and a guest. I guess you’re not supposed to write “and guest” on the outer envelopes, so I wasn’t really sure how to proceed at the time. I ended up just writing the person’s name and then calling them they were welcome to bring a guest.

Post # 9
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You could also have on your RSVP cards a line like this:

__ of ___ attending where you fill in the second line with 1 if they don’t have a guest and 2 if they do.

Post # 10
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You could always write in the names of the guests who are invited to the reception on the response card – though some people find this to be a bit too direct.

I am using inner envelopes and I’m sure that people will still be confused.

Post # 11
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Inner envelopes are definitely not necessary if you don’t want to use them!

Post # 12
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2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re not using inner envelopes.  We have a line on our RSVP that reads “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” to indicate if a guest is invited or not.

Post # 13
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1699 posts
Bumble bee

Inner envelopes started out as a “work-around” in the first place (back in the nineteenth century). They give you a place to write the names of the guests, in the era after social engraving took over from the hand-written invitations that had the name of the guests written right there on the invitation. Even then, they were optional — a lot of engraved invitations had a blank line so that the names of the guests could be written in, but many hostesses thought the consistent look of an all-engraved look made up for the fact that it was a little impersonal.

 

Fast forward to the twenty-first century. Lots of printers can do a mail-merge for you and produce invitations with the names of the guests on them, in exactly the same font as the rest of the invitation. It’s even easier if you’re printing them yourself. Instead of “requests the pleasure of your company” you use mail-merge to get “requests the pleasure of the company of / Mr and Mrs John Doe”. It’s MORE traditional than inner envelopes, looks nicer than hand-written guest names, and is more personal. Win-win all ’round.

Nothing stops you from going back to that old standard.

Post # 14
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940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I didn’t do inner envelopes.  Outer envelopes list:

Mr. and Mrs. Mom and Dad

and Cute Children

Address

 

or

 

Miss Single Woman and Guest

and Cute Child

Address

 

I felt that an inner envelope was a colossal waste of money and resources. No thanks!

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