Post # 1
I wanted to give my bridesmaids something nice, but we’re working on a really tight budget. Basically, we’re paying for a wedding for 100 people on a $12K budget (The average for an LA wedding is about $30-$50K). We’re also paying for the rehearsal dinner, rings and lodging for the attendants. The church isn’t very cheap either.
My bridesmaids are all really helpful and are putting in about $175 for their dress and their hair and makeup. Paying for their dresses wasn’t in our budget, and they each said they already had jewelry they wanted to wear on the wedding day. So I bought them handmade necklaces from etsy that they can wear after the wedding. The necklaces are each $25.
Because I work at a magazine, I get some pretty cool perks, like free name brand makeup, jewelry and beauty products. I was able to score some makeup, pearl earrings and hair and skin products to give to each of my bridesmaids. Along with the necklaces and tote bags I purchased, the value of the gifts would be about $110 a bridesmaid, but of course I didn’t pay that much. I thought I was giving a pretty neat gift, but when I described the gift to a friend she said since I was got most of the items for free, it wasn’t a real gift. I had actually only paid for the necklaces and tote bags ($30/per bridesmaid) and she thought that wasn’t enough. She thought giving stuff I got for free was pretty tacky. She said she paid $100 for each of her bridesmaids (jewelry and makeup as well), and she emphasized that she paid with her own money, like that makes it more meaningful than my gift.
Sure, I didn’t pay for 1/4 of the gift, but seriously, I don’t have enough money to spend $100/per girl (that’s $400 for just the bridesmaids!) I put a lot of thought into the necklaces and I think they’ll appreciate the makeup, earrings and beauty items. I mean, all of the items are unused and brand new, and it’s not like I’m regifting items I don’t want for myself (I totally would take them for myself if I wasn’t thinking of bridesmaid gifts.) Personally, I don’t think price always equals quality and I don’t think there should be standard price you should pay for a gift. I could be wrong though. Do you think it’s tacky to gift items you got for free?
Post # 3
I don’t think that’s tacky. In fact, If i had a friend like you that got awesome perks like that from a job, I’d want to benefit from them as much as possible, hehe!
Seriously though, they aren’t going to know how much you paid for the necklaces or totes, so why does it matter if/how much you paid for the other stuff?
Post # 4
I don’t think it is tacky. You are giving them AWESOME things that (even though you got it for free) they would have paid a lot for if they would have bought themselves. I am sure your girls will be thankful for whatever they get-they aren’t being your Bridesmaids because they want a gift-they are doing it because they love you!
Post # 5
It’s a good idea! It’s not like they will necessarily know that they were free anyway.
Post # 6
I would love to get a gift like that! Not tacky at all.
Post # 7
Your gifts sound great–Like ajonesyy said, they are in your wedding because they want to be, not to get gifts! (Besides, let me say it again, your gifts sound great–it doesn’t matter how much you”paid” or didn’t pay!
Post # 8
I think your gifts sound great – maybe your friend is just jealous
Post # 9
Yep I agree it doesn’t matter what you spent on them. No one else will know and you shouldn’t tell them. To me I think you’ve done plenty with paying for the rooms and the necklaces.
Post # 10
That’s a great gift!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 11
I would love a gift like that. I agree with a PP, if I was your friend, I would think it was awesome that you had access to that type of stuff and could pass it along!
Post # 12
seriously, if i was bridesmaid in a wedding ang got that gift i would be INCREDIABLY HAPPY.
Post # 13
A gift is a gift – it doesn’t matter how you got it (unless you stole it) or how much you paid. If someone buys me something that they got on 50% off clearance it doesn’t make it less of a gift because they paid a fraction of the price.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s tacky either. I’m making the vast majority of my Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts to save money.
Post # 15
I don’t think it’s tacky at all! It’s the thought that counts (plus you’re paying for their accommodations). Don’t tell your girls the swag was free, just let them ooh & ahh over the great stuff you gave them 🙂
Post # 16
HAHA! Your friend is just jealous that she is not a bridesmaids… your BMs will love whatever you get for them!