Post # 32
Yeah, I never thought it would be tacky until she brought it up. I’m really conscious of my budget and sometimes I forget etiquette to save money. But I’m pretty sensitive over my BM’s gifts because I care a lot about them. But, as many of you pointed out, I just think my friend’s a bit jealous.
I don’t think it should matter how much you spend. I think the thought will come out in the quality of the gift, regardless of the dollar amount you actually forked over for them. I did put thought into the gifts, even the free items–I zoomed in on stuff I knew my ladies will like. I’m definitely giving them a handwritten card to show my appreciation, and I think they’ll appreciate that even more. The thing is, my BM’s are all family members and they know we’re on a strict budget. They’re very frugal girls and they would rather us save our money than us spend money on them. They have actually gotten upset over birthday and Christmas gifts we did spend a lot of money on. Since there will be a lot of normally expensive stuff in the bags, they’ll probably think I did splurge. And being family, they’ll probably ask if we included the gifts in the budget. But I’ll take everyone’s advice and say, “don’t worry, they all were!”
Post # 33
Oh same boat with you.. I was naive to think that $10K is enough for a SoCal wedding. Thankfully my mom is helping with the reception.
I don’t think it’s tacky. It’s like saying making your own gifts (like necklaces, jewelry, scarves, or art) is tacky because you didn’t spend alot on the materials. And would your BMs look at the gifts and think, “I wonder if she spent enough on me?” I don’t think so. So long it’s personalized for them and you make them feel special, that’s all that matters.
Post # 34
NOT tacky! I would love to get a giftbag/basket of goodies if I was taking part in a friend’s wedding. 🙂 And I wouldnt be wondering how much the stuff cost her. The quality of the gifts (which it sounds like they are very nice, from your description) is what is important. If you came across quality stuff to give them, at a low cost for you, dont feel bad about it at all!
I really think that friend of yours who said it was tacky, was just jealous that she doesnt get the perks you do!
Good luck with everything! 🙂
Post # 35
i think you’re a budget bride who’s pulling in all of her resources to save money and yet still giving the BM’s NICE things.
it’s the thought that counts, not the number on a receipt!
Post # 36
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club
I think that’s a great gift, and you are paying for their lodging, so that is extremely generous! 🙂
Post # 37
way cool gift. i think you gotta use what deals you can get when you’re on a budget. and you’re already helping them out with lodging and stuff. I think they will be sweet gifts and not tacky at all.
Post # 38
I don’t think it’s tacky AT ALL!!!! I actually think it’s great that you are able to get free stuff from your job that you can “gift” them! if I was your bridesmaid i would be so glad you work at that job 🙂
the friend is just jealous that she didn’t get some of your goodies…
Post # 39
I’m just curious do you have any pics of the jewelry you’re buying for your bridesmaids?
Post # 40
um i think that is a really great gift!
Post # 41
Sounds good to me, not tacky at all!
Post # 42
Thanks for the post! I had the same feeling about my BM’s gifts. I had originally got $50 necklaces at Macy’s for them… then found the same necklace for $12 on overstock.com. When I got the necklaces they were just as cute as the expensive ones but it bothered me that I spent so little. I wound up also getting them an inexpensive pair of flip flops (Old Navy) for the wedding day.
I don’t think it’s much more different than buying a gift for someone with a gift card or coupon you have received. Oh, and congrat’s for planning your wedding on a tight budget!
Post # 43
Not tacky, you’ve been putting some thought into and have tried your best with what you can afford. Your friend sounds pretty judgmental. A nice gift should come from the heart and just because it doesn’t hit the $100 mark who cares! It’s what you can afford. And your gifts sound great btw.
Post # 44
Those are great gifts. Definitely not tacky at all!
Post # 45
I’m with all the other posters. It’s not tacky. Besides, your bridesmaids agreed to be your BMs because they care for you – not because they were looking forward to a gift.
Post # 46
Why would you need to tell them how much it costs anyway? A gift is a gift. Showing appreciation doesn’t always mean that you have to fork up the big $$$. Your friend must be the type to measure appreciation that way. Now that’s tacky.