Post # 1
My husband and I are coming up on our 1 year anniversary we decided to celebrate by taking a 3 night trip up to the mountains with our dog. It’s a long drive but we wanted a change of scenery and seclusion to just enjoy ourselves. Well today my mother in law found out and saw the cabin we rented has a spare room she said sounds like a great time me and your SIL would love to come ….. I then explained it’s our anniversary trip no one is coming with us as it’s just a short 3 nights to be alone…. She said oh you guys never invite us anywhere ….. She said it would be so fun we could all stay up all night and talk to each other and she could cook and we could all hike together ….. Well obviously my husband and I are really wanting the alone time but should we give in and have them come??? She sounds so depressed about it and hurt feeling …. I just feel like whenever we try to get away and do something by ourselves she either makes us feel bad and we cancel our trip or she comes…. Or should I stand my ground ? How do you all deal with your mother in law
Post # 2
Don’t feel bad. It’s your anniversary.
Post # 3
Omg no. Just plan for another time for you guys to go all together. Your 1 year anniversary is not one of them!
Post # 4
Future_Mrs_C25978: Just my .02$ Umm NO stand your ground. That would be so weird if they came with yal on the ANNIVERSARY trip. Now a family trip i understand but oh no not a ann trip.
Question is your Darling Husband an only child? Sounds like your Mother-In-Law needs to cut the cord already!!
Post # 5
Have your anniversary alone, maybe comprimise and plan another trip in a month to spand with you MIl
Post # 6
Future_Mrs_C25978: You are being reasonable. It’s your anniversary! I suppose they could come if they want to hear you guys’ sex sounds ;).
Offer them a raincheck to buy some time, and next time keep your vacation plans vague.
Post # 7
What I’d do, if it were my Mother-In-Law, is already book a trip with her and her daughter at some other time. Say you think it sounds lovely, but you had your heart set on a romatic getaway. I’d ask her and the SIL to split the cost of the family getaway, btw…
I don’t think you’re in the wrong for not wanting two family members at your anniversary getaway.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Nope. They don’t get to go on an anniversary trip. There are literally hundreds of other days on the calendar for everyone to get together for a family trip with everyone. These three days belong to you, your husband, and your furry friend.
Post # 9
No no no. You can take family vacations any time. Let her know you will be happy to plan a family vacation for some other point but that you’re looking forward to spending quality time with your husband on your anniversary.
Post # 10
Future_Mrs_C25978: HAH! That is completely absurd. Tell your MIL/SIL “Sure, Darling Husband and I are totally ok with you guys tagging along as long as you bring some extra condoms for us and are ok with me being a screamer.”
Time for her to cut the cord. Hang out with them the weekend after.
Post # 11
Its your anniversary trip, no way you should change plans. You need to go and enjoy yourselves. She’ll just have to get over it.
Post # 12
Future_Mrs_C25978: it’s an anniversary trip!!!! DO NOT invite her!!!! I mean she invited herself but DO NOT cave. I would tell her to kiss my ass 🙂
Post # 13
LizLemon: Hahahah!!! Ask her to hold the video camera
Post # 14
“I just feel like whenever we try to get away and do something by ourselves she either makes us feel bad and we cancel our trip or she comes….”
Have you tried mentioning this to her? She might be ashamed to know she’s either come on every romantic getaway you’ve scheduled, or forced you to cancel.
Also, you two have GOT to stop telling her about your romantic getaway plans until after the getaway! lol
Post # 15
Um no, plan a different hike or outdoors-y activity to do with them another time.