(Closed) Are my nerves normal?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Did you have guys lie to you in the past and treat you poorly? The wedding is super stressful but I don’t think that’s why you would start having these feelings about your fiance. My husband has a very ‘dark’ past with drugs and partying and we talk about it so that he can reasure me when I start to get nervous. You need to talk to your fiance about this, he is the only one who can make you feel better.

Post # 4
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Sounds like .. chilly feet if bells are JUST NOW starting to go off.  You’re rethinking things and you would be an idiot not to go over some things in your mind.  He sounds like a great guy, and yes alot of us have partied in our past.  This doesn’t mean it will happen in our futures, we were young, dumb and had undefined goals.  He’s past that now, he has you and your life as a goal,  to work hard for, to love  and to cherish.  

Walk it off.  

Post # 5
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2122 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

As HisIrishPrincess said most of us have done this kind of thing in the past, and unless your Fiance has given you reason to doubt him, I don’t see why he’d go back to that lifestyle. I’m making a generalisation here but in my (and friends’) experiences when you’re ready for marriage your priorities change and you care about your health, your SO and finances.. going out on a bender just isn’t as appealing anymore. I hope this helps and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!

 

Post # 6
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3204 posts
Sugar bee

I know how you feel! I went through similar fears with my Darling Husband when our relationship started to get really serious and then we got engaged. I was just sooo worried that he would “miss” the old days of partying and would not want his dull, tame wife anymore after a few years. But he (and it sounds like your SO) has never given me a reason to not trust him when he says that that stuff is in the past. So yes, I think it is just nerves. We all want to know what is going to happen in the future before we make a huge, life-altering decision, but you can’t….so you have to go off of his actions and trust him! 

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