(Closed) Are my wedding plans too weird

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

1. Send printed invites, but the degree of formality and personalization is entirely up to you.

2. Don’t put this in the invitations — talk to your family members in advance and let them know the plans for the event and your preferences about the “publicity” of the event.

3. Cost entirely depends on what part of the world/country you’re in and how fancy a restaurant you would like to have your event at. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not my area of the world, unfortunately. I would start by Googling “[your area] wedding restaurant/banquet hall/event space/private room” and see what comes up that looks tasty.

Post # 7
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2031 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Not weird at all!!!  It’s actually similar to ours, although ours is a casual backyard BBQ. To answer your questions, I did still send out invites but not ‘formal’.  They were plain blue (one of our colors) with a picture of a tree with our initials carved in a heart.  Very cute.  We only did invites, not response cards because of the cost,  but that is just us, we are very cheap LOL.  The design and ‘formality’ of the invites is totally up to you, and will help show what type of event you’re planning…if I sent ivory damask invitations in the fanciest envelopes and people showed up for a hot dog it would have sent the wrong message.  I googled wording and found some I liked on the offbeat bride website.  

As for not telling everyone, I created an event on FB for RSVP’s and such (you could do a ‘group’ too) and posted this:  Help keep our marriage a surprise!  We are not announcing our marriage to the rest of the world until after our little wedding, we wanted to share the news with our closest friends and family first πŸ™‚  People think it’s cute and haven’t said a WORD outside of personal messages / phone calls!  I’m SO excited to break the news to the rest of the world ‘Guess what?  We got MARRIED’ LOL

As for budget, that is 100% up to you.  I’d look into places you’d like, see what they’re prices are and go from there.  The venue is going to be the bulk of your budget, because everything else can be saved on somehow.  There are a zillion ways to save money on all the ‘extras’ and if you’re even a smidge crafty, you can make $5 worth of stuff look like $50!  πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re having a 23 person wedding. Only our parents, siblings and their spouses and children and our grandmothers.

We’re renting a private hall and having a caterer cook for us. I’m DIYing most decorations but the feel will be more a casual dinner party.

Check out http://www.intimateweddings.com/blog/ for ideas.

Post # 11
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

yeah, I only invite immediate family and 3– 1st cousins on mom’s side in our 54 party wedding; when someone asked about a registry or asked about the wedding like a distant family, I said we were having a small wedding only immediate family, it was all good

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

@wederley, we paid for the wedding ourselves, and I didn’t want to blow all our savings on one day, so I just cut costs wherever I could, to be honest, we contributed a lot on non-related wedding stuff, just because my 15 member immediate family is from all over the country and my hubby’s immediate 3 member family, best friend were from England and 2nd best friend from Australia, so we contributed towards airfare and accomodations just so our most loved could be with us-this was most important, I say that part alone must have been about $5000-6000; we spent $3500 on honeymoon in St. Lucia.

The wedding itself I say was about $22,000 for everything even with my DIY and small party, that’s only because I wanted a fabulous reception which we had at The Waldorf Astoria and it was $249/head +tax-I bargained as hard as I could (we had only dinner wine and beer, it so happened the champagne came out it wasn’t supposed to so it worked out, like open bar champagne too, cool! ssshhh), I knew it could only happen with a small wedding list- I knew I would regret it having it at a restaurant for $3000 but not as much pizzazz; I wanted an elegant fun  party and dancing so instead of adding family I barely knew I added more local close friends who were fun; my big thing was reception and family being there so that’s where I spent the most; I scrimped on almost everything I could and bargained I asked friends where I could($600 Kleinfeld dress, $180 on 240 red roses  DIY bouquet and arrangements, mom bought tiara, veil and favors,  $16 white satin shoes  from Naturalizer, $5 guest book made out of notebook and whitesatin, $3 cardbox and car sign from materials from dollar store, $160 for shuttle, $40 for my DIY invites from parchment paper plus postage, $20 for programs, menus, DIY from parchment paper from Staples, $3 for baskets I crafted white satin covered baskets, $600 DJ, friend’s friend-cheap in NYC he used to DJ for central park events!, $750 video, $1000 photographer friend, paid for Bridesmaid or Best Man and flower girl dresses and some of rehearsal dinner hair was free from friend who works on 5th avenue, Bridesmaid or Best Man hair $50 and make-up in my hood $30 each, church was free because I was a member, we just walked 2 blocks away so no need for fancy car); could have saved more in  another city but this is where I live, so had to scrimp where I could but I put a lot into what was most important to me family and the reception.

I loved my wedding I had a blast, the happiest day of my life, I wouldn’t change a thing, being budget minded I could have just done restaurant but my hubby said do what makes you happy so happy I listened, so I’m happy I chose where I did (hubby was in England so I did most of planning), which is why my friends ask my help planning and I still come on weddingbee for some ideas.

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