(Closed) Are nursing mothers really a package deal?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@vmec:  “Little One (child)” sorry 🙂 I am part of a few parenting forums and weuse a lot of terms that probably don’t apply here!

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

makes perfect sense LOL.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No they are not a package deal.

 

Post # 35
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@vmec:  wow from this thread you think kids are a burden? I dont think anyone has said that. yes it can be challenging sometimes and difficult but never a burden. Dont 4get that you were once a kid too

Post # 36
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it depends on the situation – I am definitely okay with 6 month and unders being at the wedding.

Post # 37
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Honey bee

The rules of the party are up to the host, so if they don’t want kids there, that’s fine. The mom shouldn’t get to dictate if she is going to bring her child. If she doesn’t like the rules, don’t go.

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@bells:  LOL, you don’t have to say “my child is a burden” in order to make me believe that children do place a burden on ones life.

Yes, I was once a child, and for those 20+ years I was a burden on my mother. A burden she fully took on and enjoyed most of it. Doesn’t mean I wasn’t still a burden.

Post # 39
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Honey bee

bur·den 1  (bûrdn)n.

1. Something that is carried.
2.

a. Something that is emotionally difficult to bear.
b. A source of great worry or stress; weight: The burden of economic sacrifice rests on the workers of the plant.
3. A responsibility or duty: The burden of organizing the campaign fell to me.

 

So under definitions 1 and 3, most infants would fit the definition of a burden.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

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@SoupyCat:  I’d say kids, especailly infants, are often a source of great worry & stress too! 

Post # 41
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Honey bee

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@juliette.eliza:  especially for brides who want an adult wedding, as seen here on WB! Wink

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@MrsWBS:  

Yes, this. I would feel like an asshole for demanding that a mother choose between my wedding and taking care of her tiny baby. 

Post # 43
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@SoupyCat:  I like you, DictionaryCat.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I wanted to throw out there that some babies will literally act like you are trying to poison them if you give them a bottle, and they are normally breastfed. No matter how hungry they are. No matter what temperature the milk is. No matter what’s in the bottle. They will not drink it.

Hopefully, you’ll get lucky and have a baby that will take either! If not, expect the babysitter to be calling pretty quickly after you leave.

Post # 45
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Honey bee

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@Juliepants:  Thank you Ms. Pants! 🙂

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s funny you should be so normal to feel that way, but I’m afraid that weddings have a way of bringing out the selfish in a lot of us… I had two maid of honors… One was a mother of two and the 2nd was an also engaged bride… I was on my 2nd child and had gone through 3 weddings the year before so I took great notes as to the logistics of it all… Funny thing is my BFF aka the bride with no kids made it quite clear that I would not have time to nurse my daughter during rehearsal dinner, day of wedding, etc etc… I had to gently remind her that the whole reason I had so much free time to come see her 4.5 hours away was bc of mat leave courtesy of little one… it came to the point where I told her I was removing myself from her wedding party based on the fact that I could not comply with all the rules and regulations of when I couldn’t feed my newborn… Long story short, her and I are no longer friends as she ended our friendship in her own head the April before her June bridal shower without telling me, and had me make the 4.5 hr drive (solo) which turned into 6hrs with a 3.5 month and a 28 month old… Needless to say when I found out that she had me do that unnecessary drive, I kicked her out of my December wedding, and have not looked back… I never knew there were such crazy, selfish people out there….. Like she even said no pregnant bridesmaids, so when one got pregnant she got taken out, and sadly enough she lost the baby, but opted NOT to rejoin the bridal party… I don’t blame her… and this SAME bride didn’t want her close gf in the bridal party bc she was rather how do I say “super sized” and after talking to her, she finally saw how stupid it was… Duh!

Unless you’re a mother, or currently in the situation, it’s not as easy to leave a baby alone as people think. My bachelorette is this weekend for instance… My inlaws will have my 8 month old as the girls and I will be in a hotel and I told my gf from out of town she, her hubby, 3 yr old, and 5 month old should crash at my place since I have all the toddler and baby equipment to mak it easier. Whatever happened to empathy and humanity????!!!!

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