(Closed) Are people going to wear jeans to my wedding???

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

not freaking out, per se, but some people will likely show up underdressed. farm says casual to me, so unless otherwise notified, i would probably not dress up. but i WOULDNT wear jeans. maybe put a note on the website or spread the word that the attire is a little more formal than ‘casual’.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If I were a guest at your wedding, I’d wear a tea-length dress…but maybe nice pants and a blouse depending on the season.  I wouldn’t worry too much about what guests wear.  Really, what can you do about it besides try to spread the word via family/friends?  Are you afraid they are hearing “country farm” and assuming that it’s supposed to be casual?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

No matter what I would never wear jeans to any wedding! What is the norm in your circle? Do people commonly wear jeans to weddings? If so then you might want to enlist family and friends to spread the word about the dress code. Otherwise I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

perhaps pass the word around to a few key people who can help spread your desired dress to everyone, but I doubt anyone would ever wear jeans!! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

The only way I would wear jeans to a wedding is if the bride & groom specifically ASKED for it. That said, I was worried about this as well, and since none of our family attend a lot of weddings, and might not be sure of what to wear, I put this up on our wedding website.

“First and foremost, we want our guests to be comfortable. What we’ve written below is simply information about the kind of wedding we’re having to give an idea of what sort of attire you’d like to wear if you’re unsure.

We’re having an outdoor, afternoon wedding, which will take place on the grounds and porticoes of the mansion. If we had to pick a “dress code” for our wedding, it would have to be casual cocktail. Ladies in sundresses or cocktail dresses. For the men, ties and jackets are not required, but if you’d like to wear them, feel free. A short sleeved or dress shirt and slacks are just fine.”

Hopefully that will get the point across.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hopefully no one shows up in jeans!!!  I agree with an earlier post — maybe start spreading the news by word of mouth re: dress code.  Or, if you have a website, that would be a great place to post!  I used theknot.com’s free site, and they have a special section specifically for attire.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Do you have a website? If so you could indicate on the site that dress is formal of at least "semi-formal". Otherwise word of mouth is probably going to be your best bet!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree, I’d use the website to let people know the “dress code”.  If not, maybe your Bridal Party and mom can pass on the information. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I wouldn’t worry. It was probably very clear to everyone that our wedding would be relatively casual (rustic invites, held outdoors at a park and in a renovated barn, mentioned on our Web site to consider the weather when choosing attire and recommended comfy footwear)!

Even so, I didn’t spot a single person in jeans or shorts at the wedding. Most of the men were more dressed up than our groomsmen, who where in white dress shirts, nice khakis and ties (no jackets).

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Well personally jeans would not bother me unless they were raggedy (is that a word?) or full of holes or something. But our wedding is semi-formal and while the majority of the guests will doubtless be in dresses/skirts/ nice pants, etc., I think I will be too busy to really care if someone is in jeans!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I did not indicate a dress code either.  No matter what the invitatation looks like, unless it has a specific dress code I wear a nice dress/cocktail attire.  I did have one or two people show up in jeans at our wedding and I knew I said Id be upset if people wore jeans but when it came down to it, I noticed it and got over it.  They should be the ones that feel out of place if they wear jeans 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Definitely spread the word about the dress code through family and friends. Most know to wear something nice to a wedding. I would guess that most would be in sundresses, or slacks and button downs. I think that most people know to dress up.

Even if someone wears jeans, I promise you will barely notice. There are so many wonderful things going on that day, and you are going to be so happy, that if a random person is wearing jeans, you probably won’t notice it until later, if at all. And no one will judge your wedding from what someone ELSE wore!!!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Red Fish Grill

We got the same questions.  Our wedding was held on a beach.  Most men wanted to know what would be appropriate in the sense of a suit and tie vs. khakis and a button-down.  (It tends to be hot down here in the summer!)  I wouldn’t read too much into the question.  At least you’re getting them, which means your guests are conscientious enough to ask.

My main fear was that all the men would be Hawaiian shirts.  Guess what, there was one… and it didn’t bother me a bit in the whole scheme of things.  :o)

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