(Closed) Are people just over thinking it?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Do people overthink conception too soon?
    Yes, start out relaxed and go from there. : (90 votes)
    57 %
    No, charting right away is necessary to get pregnant ASAP! : (36 votes)
    23 %
    I don't have an opinion either way. : (31 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 48
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @FreckledFox:  I am not name calling or baiting just pointing out this topic comes up every few months and it’s similar to the “should I vaccinate?” “is natural birth best?” threads where there is no agreeing and it gets shut down by page 3.  Not saying OP doesn’t have a valid question, but these threads never end well and need to be shut down or re-directed by mods to the dozen other threads just like in by page 2 before it explodes.  Any topic that invoves personal choice and opinion doesn’t end well.

    Post # 49
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    109 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @This Time Round:  

    @Rhopalocera:  

     

    Actually a doctor will not take a patient seriously and will not be aggressive with testing unless you have been ACTIVELY trying, ie OPKs, charting periods, timing BD correctly for 6-12 months with no luck. Some women don’t want to take that chance of playing around for a yr only for a doctor to turn them around to do charting that they couldve been doing for the last year.

    I decided to just let nature take its course. Im young, healthy, never used BCPs, should happen quickly. NOPE, I found out after 2yrs of trying that I have only one working tube and not a clue on when or IF i ovulate. Now I have to chart for a couple of months wasting even MORE time. I WISH I wouldve been a little more aggressive to begin with

    Post # 50
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    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @mrsberry2011:  I was not saying that situations like yours never happen or that charting, temping, and the like aren’t to be done. I was saying that many women go overboard with it when they don’t need to, and that the stress of going overboard with it can be harmful and counterproductive. I didn’t say or suggest that one shouldn’t be mindful of their body and how it is working. 

    My point was, and is, that there are many women who are super focused and nearly obsessed with charting, temping, and making pregnancy happen on a schedule as soon as they start trying to concieve, and isn’t necessary. Again, I didn’t say they should stop altogether. 

    My comment and your comment aren’t incompatible or contradictory. 

    Post # 51
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think sometimes people worry before they have to. I read a thread about how lube should be avoided as it intereferes with conception…and i would say you should avoid it if youre having problems otherwise it moxt likely wont be an issue. Stuff like that

    I do get why people chart etc though

    Post # 52
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    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I feel like I often hear stories of people trying to conceive and can’t get pregnant, then when they stop ttying they actually do. And the doctor always tells them it’s because they were stressing themselves out about it, instead of just letting it happen.

    Post # 53
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    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @PoppyH:  Dh and I have no known fertility issues, but I also wasn’t prepared to play around for a year, go get help, be told I wasn’t actually ‘trying’ and then be run through a bunch of tests.

    This EXACTLY.  

    If there is a problem, I want to know as quickly as possible so I can address it.  

    @SadieBee:  And this.  Temping makes me not wonder.  

    Post # 55
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    1348 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @OldMrsMcDonald:  You are in my thoughts! I hope you can find all the strength you need to during this difficult time!

    Post # 56
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    1440 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Other than low AMH levels and seeing several friends struggle with infertility, we had no issues. However, we wanted to find a time where if we got pregnant on the first try, it wouldn’t be too “quick “. So just stopping birth control and going from there didn’t work for us. My cycles were very long (around 50 days) so I wanted several months of charting temps to figure out the best time to bd. My plan was to just have dated throughout the month, with concentrated effort in the fw, for a few cycles, then go to using opks at that point. We were lucky and got pregnant the first try. But I attribute that success to the fact that I had charted.

    Post # 57
    Bee
    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

    For me, charting was about understanding what was happening with my body after over a decade on the pill. Once I started reading about fertility, I realized how unfamiliar I was with my body’s natural cycle, and charting helped me truly feel connected with what was going on. Also, we started trying at 30 and 33 years old, respectively, and both of us wanted to have some data on hand in case we ran into any difficulty– I felt like it would make me a lot more confident to approach a medical professional with actual information rather than the vague “something’s not working” that I think a lot of people feel after many cycles of not conceiving. Thankfully, it didn’t turn out like that– because I charted, which took all of 60 seconds a day, I knew that I was ovulating immediately after ceasing birth control, and when I was fertile. We were ready to concieve and we did the first week we tried. Knowledge is power, so to speak.

    Far from making me feel obsessed or that I was overthinking my fertility, charting my cycle helped me feel really empowered and very in touch with my body. I think it gets crammed into a box labeled “cold” and “scientific,” but as a result of charting I felt my “feminine mystery” had finally been revealed to my understanding, and I really understood my hormones and sex drive as well!

     

    Post # 58
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    1352 posts
    Bumble bee

    @OldMrsMcDonald:  My heart almost stopped. I am SO sorry to hear that. I wish you and your Darling Husband all the best.

    Post # 59
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    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @OldMrsMcDonald:  Thinking of you and your little family x

    @mrsberry2011:  “Actually a doctor will not take a patient seriously and will not be aggressive with testing unless you have been ACTIVELY trying, ie OPKs, charting periods, timing BD correctly for 6-12 months with no luck. Some women don’t want to take that chance of playing around for a yr only for a doctor to turn them around to do charting that they couldve been doing for the last year.

    And this is exactly why once we start TTC we will be charting, temping, checking CM, etc.

    I don’t want to run the risk of ‘trying’ for 12+ months with no success to be told that we need to ‘actively’ try for another 6-12 months before we can have fertility tests.

    Post # 60
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Cheese and crackers. You sound very close minded and unaware of the struggles many couples go through.

    Post # 61
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I started charting almost a year and a half before we TTC’d so it’s hard to say how I would have handled TTC if I hadn’t. But I started charting because I was interested. I learned so much info about my own body and women in general that I was kind of embarassed I didn’t know. My cycles were never very regular and it was nice to know what was really going on in there.

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