Post # 77
For the record, I don’t appreciate being labled as a “charting basher”, nor am I of the opinion that charting and temp taking is “unnatural conception”, and would appreciate it if people would stop associating me with such titles.
I came on here asking a question. I’m ttc just like many others on here, and was getting the taste of both worlds.
Seeing how people have been reacting to this has been really disappointing, as I’ve always considered this site to have one of the kindest forums I’ve encountered. Thank you to everyone who actually read the post and didn’t take it as an attack (because it wasn’t), I appreciate your feedback.
Post # 78
@GooteyBootey: no need to be dramatic. the way you worded some of your post was probably not the best way and people are just reacting to that.
Post # 80
Personally, I would prefer to start out just having lots of sex and see what happens. I’m pretty sure I can guesstimate my FW just by the fact that my periods are regular and other physical signs so we’d ramp up the sex a little more during that time. The way I see it, there’s not many times in my life that I will be able to have sex without worrying about getting pregnant when I don’t want to so I want to enjoy it. And since we’re not living together until after marriage, I would hope that we would still be in the honeymoon stage and be inclined to have sex often when we are TTC.
OTOH, people are different. Maybe a couple can’t have regular sex due to work schedules or physical problems. Maybe they really want to avoid giving birth at a certain time of year. Maybe they have been charting for birth control already. If both parties are on the same page about their approach to TTC, who am I to question it?
Just a hijack–is it really true that a doctor won’t run fertility tests unless you can produce a year’s worth of charts? That would suck because I really don’t want to chart…sigh…
Post # 81
@worldtraveler: I don’t think you can say anything is true for ALL doctors. They each do what they think is best 🙂 with my doctor, when a couple hasn’t been successful in conceiving, he has them chart and use OPKs for 3-4 months. This lets jim verify that ovulation is happening and when. It gives him a ton of information to then base a plan around.
@GooteyBootey: I’m sorry you’re feeling attacked, but like @IAmTheShadow: said, your OP did sound really negative and harsh against those who do chart. you could have phrased it differently – I don’t really understand the benefits to charting and yet many of you do it. Can you give me your reasons for charting and how it helps you?
Post # 82
@OldMrsMcDonald: I am so, so sorry. You’re all in my prayers.
OP, I think your question is fair, but I am in the camp of charting and taking a structured approach to TTC without having any known troubles conceiving. It’s my personality to do this, and I have loved doing it. It’s not a burden, and quite frankly, I feel like it’s helped me be relaxed about the process. My husband and I have very different personalities – I am a planner who stresses out about things, he’s more relaxed and fly by the seat of his pants. So this allows me to do what what I need to do to give us our best shot, and I am aware to tell him when we *have* to have sex based on my chart…other than that it’s business as usual.
It’s made sex more fun and it’s brought my husband and I closer together. He doesn’t need to hear me stressing out about the “right” or “wrong” times to have sex or all the little tedious things that could go along with TTC without a plan…this way, I know we are giving this our best shot because I am charting my own cycles.
Post # 83
Oh this thread…
It basically sums up exactly where I am. I’m 32. We aren’t TTC yet but will be relatively soon.
I CANNOT decide if I should chart or just let it happen naturally. I really would prefer to let it happen naturally but I’m also scared due to my age. I’m the kind of person who obsesses over everything.
Any thoughts/insights would be appreciated.
Post # 84
I’ve been charting for the past year plus to understand my cycles now that I’m off hormones and on the more natural Paraguard (copper IUD). It really helps me understand why I feel the way I do on certain days, and predict what symptom is coming next. Soo much better than the wait and see method- I think that’s more stressful waiting for your period to show up within a week or two week range thinking every twinge could be a cramp and rushing to the bathroom (I have heavy flows). We will more than likely continue to chart once we ttc in a few years because I see no reason to stop what I’m already doing, and also because Darling Husband is in his 40’s now and we just wouldn’t have the time to wait around hoping something happens- he could be well into his 50’s by then!