Are people seriously having normal weddings right now?

posted 5 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Busy bee

The August and September weddings we were invited to have been postponed to 2021. So far, the late October wedding is still going on as planned. 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I totally get what you mean. I haven’t seen too many big weddings in my area thankfully, as most things are closed down still. We were going to have a 150+ wedding on 7/11 and have been planning for almost two years. But obviously we canceled it because ya know, I don’t want to kill my family. 

We are having a small ceremony on the same day with immediate fam, and bridal party only with no plus ones. I’m feeling guilty for having even that many people, I couldn’t imagine forcing anyone to come or going forward with our original wedding! Hopwfully in the future we can have a big reception with our original guest list!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Yikes. I’m with you. That said I’m in NYC where there have been over 20k deaths and March and April were marked by the nonstop sound of ambulances and staggering daily death tolls. Things are reopening here too but I cannot imagine feeling comfortable attending events of any size for a long time. The most I feel comfortable with this summer is sitting outdoors with a few friends 6′ apart in a park, wearing masks. An indoor wedding is unthinkable (except in places that have actually gotten things under control, e.g. Australia). 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

It’s up to guests whether they want to accept the risk or not, not the bride and groom.

I’m sorry you had to postpone your wedding. I don’t think you were being silly at all, and it’s the moral choice.

But I do think you should be careful not to yuck their yum on such an important day, regardless of what you’re doing with your own event.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re not crazy.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper

I’m with you. I don’t care how loose their local restrictions are, what they’re doing is still foolish, irresponsible and selfish. I wouldn’t attend. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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@minnerose:  I have a wedding I was invited to for next month as well. I’m not going nor am I going to the shower this month. The bride was previously was a close friend said that they basically don’t care about Covid and it’s like a flu so they are still getting married. I’ve had an immediate family member that had Covid and I’m not willing to risk my life or someone else’s. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I would not attend a wedding like that. A lot of people are sick of covid and acting like it doesn’t exist anymore. Some of us like staying out of the ICU and having full lung capacity.

Yes, it’s up to guests whether to attend or not. But an invite comes with implicit expectations, depending on the invitee’s relationship with the couple. At the least, the couple could have addressed covid concerns on their site. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

You haven’t spoken to them in some time. Maybe call and ask these details? Or don’t go? 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

A few weeks ago we received a wedding cancellation announcement for a wedding planned for next month.  They are going ahead with the wedding day but a small affair with immediate family only.  Their announcement stated they hoped to have a “reception” on their one year anniversary. 

Good thing, because we would have declined to attend if they had gone full speed ahead. 

Please don’t feel silly about cancelling your wedding.  The silly people are those who are judging you for cancelling. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My friend’s venue won’t let them cancel or change the date unless the rules of their state at the time don’t allow gatherings of that size. They haven’t announced the next phase yet so they have no choice but to move forward or lose a ton of money. Wedding is at the end of August and they are in a hard hit state but one that’s well on the way to reopening. If they had their way, they would postpone because they’re afraid that people won’t come but they don’t get final say unfortunately. So you may not know the whole story.  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Whether it’s a good idea or a bad idea, the fact is that it’s allowed. And if it’s allowed then people are going to do it. You can’t control others’ behaviours so you do whatever you want and need to and focus on that. 

Post # 14
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Newbee

People have sometimes polar opposite opinions on this so it will reflect on their decisions to party on..covid or no covid. Just like some people think the “cure is worse than the disease”.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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@minnerose: 

yeah, that is super crazy and stupid.  Unfortunately many of our political leaders (the Senile Cheeto included) are modeling that this is ok, so people believe it.  NO.  It’s not safe.  Don’t go.

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