Are people seriously having normal weddings right now?

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Friends’ wedding is in early October and they are very defensive anytime someone even suggests it might be un-safe. I’ve been invited to their shower in late July. The social pressure to go is intense. I’ve responded to many threads “absolutely not” in response to whether the OP should attend. Now that I’m in that spot, I’m really empathizing with them.

Post # 32
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Honey bee

I don’t like wedding enough to go to them in the best of times, let alone now.  Lol. 

 

Post # 33
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Bee Keeper

We’ve been invited to 2 weddings, one in Sept, one in Nov. I’m probably going to go and wear a mask. One is in Florida, one in NJ, both places have been hit hard. I’m not thrilled, but I absolutely have to go to the one in FL.

OP I can understand your mixed feelings on this one. I hope that when your wedding is on next year thatbthisnCOVID crap is just a memory. I’ve spoken to someone in the pharma industry and the vaccine is close.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t think it is a good idea, and I would decline the invitation.

But I am also sick of the smug superiority. Most people choose to act or live in ways that put others at risk without giving it a second thought.

I surveyed my students once and almost all admitted to texting and driving, a good number admitted to drunk driving. Most of my friends consider it beneath them to take a bus even when one is available for their work commute. So they choose to drive, putting themselves, others and the environment at risk. 

I am not talking about anyone here, cuz I have no idea how you live. But with Covid, I have seen a lot of people throwing stones even though they live in glass houses.

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - Chicago, IL

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@sunburn:  can you elaborate about the vaccine process? I’m curious about what you know!

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

My husband is supposed to be best man at a 200-person wedding in a midwestern state in September. We will have a 2-month old baby at home at the time. I am so pissed his friend is putting him in the situation of having to choose between supporting him vs. his newborn child’s health. 

Post # 37
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Honey Beekeeper

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@Anonymous1063:  I don’t understand your point. Texting or drinking and driving is also a selfish, stupid, and irresponsible thing to do. I’m happy to jump on that bandwagon, and have. And most people have no choice but to drive to work. Public transportation is not always practical, safe, or accessible. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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@lucyinsky:  THIS. I hate the flippant attitude that “a wedding is not a summons.” The pressure to attend the wedding of a close friend or family member is INTENSE and can have a literal lifetime of ramifications, not just for you/that person, but for the entire family/friend group. It’s easy for people to say “well they’re dumb, screw them”, but I’m also guessing most people can’t just easily throw away their relationships. 

 

Also, it’s smugly superior to say “hey, it’s freaking stupid to go in public without a mask, and it’s super stupid to go to an unnecessary social gathering”? It’s a pandemic. It’s not that hard. Our grandfathers sacrificed by dying face down in the trenches of far-flung countries during war, I think we can all stomach postponing fun things for Netflix and wearing a piece of fabric on our faces when we buy groceries for 6 months. The fallout from quarantine/COVID has impacted basically every aspect of my life this year in a pretty craptastic way, and even I (the queen of self-pity) have managed some small semblance of perspective. It’s not smug to prioritize the health and safety of others (and yourself, since healthy people die or have serious side effects too…). 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I can’t imagine holding a normal wedding for a very long time. We are still smack in the middle of this thing and I can’t believe people still don’t understand it.

Post # 42
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Blushing bee

My husband and I are going to Tennessee for a wedding this coming weekend. My husband is the best man. I think its completely selfish of them to be going forward with the wedding, but I’d rather just suck it up and go then make a stink about it. I have no idea what the venue is like or how many people are going.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee

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@minnerose: You are being reasonable and they are being unduly risk acceptant and putting others lives in danger.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

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@Anonymous1063:  uh…. you can be made at people who drink and drive (I sure as hell am) AND mad at people who don’t take proper precautions in a pandemic.  And for that matter I guess it’s better to care about people in one way even if you fail in another than to care in no ways.   

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

Yes, there are places and people that have gone back to (almost) normal life.  Weddings in my state are allowed.  Gatherings are allowed with people at 50% of the venue size. 

We just traveled out of state and all DHMs were dropped in the area that we in.  People were attending shows/concerts, eating in restaurants, shopping, and going to amusement parks.  

In my area, we peaked in April and our numbers have dropped.  I would feel ok attending a wedding right now.   I think a lot is area dependant.  

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