Are people seriously having normal weddings right now?

posted 5 months ago in Guests
Post # 76
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Bumble bee

Large gatherings are currently illegal in my country xo

Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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@lakebee:  “To each their own” only makes sense when “their own” choice can’t kill anyone else. 

Post # 78
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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@Anonymous1063:  

Yeah, a lot of the mess we’re in is due to people being too cowardly to call things out. 

“I also point out that in many other parts of the world use of mass transportation is common and accepted while in the U.S. many people think it’s a last resort, something you do only if you are in dire circumstances and can’t afford a car.” 

Where I live in the U.S. many people take the bus and most of them don’t think of it as a “last resort” and many could afford a car (or already have one) but choose to ride the bus instead. I rode the bus for years. I got to a place where I could have afforded a car, but I decided it was much more responsible to save the money. But even before I could afford a car, I wasn’t in dire circumstances. I had food, a safe apartment, a job, took part in leisure activities, and had little to no debt. The way you explained it to your friends shows your own bias and makes it seem like the bus is only an acceptable, reasonable option outside of the U.S. Take a bus sometime in your own town. You’ll see people reading, friends with shopping bags, people watching Netflix… it’s normal. Not desperation. I swear we don’t bite!

Post # 79
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Newbee

The unfortunate thing is many people don’t have the choice to postpone. Venues and vendors were only allowing that when large gatherings were prohibited. In many states they no longer are. Throwing away 20-50k  is much easier said than done! Sports teams are practicing again, bars are opening, and many entertainment venues at a certain capacity.  Life is returning to normal, even if not smart. 

Post # 80
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Busy bee

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@Anonymous1063:  “As for having to live in a place where there are not so good schools, all over my state in suburbs, there are park n Rides with buses to the cities.”

Not everyone lives in your state. For real, some people don’t live anywhere near a metro, and some people don’t have a convenient bus route from their home to their job. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against public transit during non-pandemic times. Right now my whole company is working from home, but under normal circumstances, I take the metro to work. But that’s because I live right next to a metro station, and my office is just down the street from a metro station. I’m well aware that many people don’t have that luxury. Some people have jobs that aren’t located in a major metropolitan area. Some people can’t afford to live in areas with good public transit. It might be hard to believe, but not everyone is living your life.

Post # 81
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Iowa

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@minnerose:  I live in Iowa and our state never even closed so everything’s open and our governor has gotten rid of capacity requirements and such. I’ve seen multiple large weddings happen lately since they are allowed, not necessarily paying attention to if it’s safe. Ive kinda struggled with how I feel about it b/c I don’t think I would want to go to sucha large gathering right now. However I also see it as guests ultimately get to choose whether theyre okay with attending a wedding right now so it’s really up to them to risk it or not. I totally get being annoyed/upset on your end though since it’s disappointing having to push back a wedding, but ultimately if that’s what you and your fiancé decided on because you guys feel that it was the smartest and safest option then that’s great and no one should make you feel bad for wanting to be cautious. 

Post # 83
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@weddingmaven:  when did I ever say I don’t care about spreading a contagious disease? In my first post I said I didn’t think holding the wedding was a good idea and I would not attend.

I think we should care about both. My newspaper yesterday ran a small blurb about a 4 year-old boy killed by a pickup truck. About one paragraph long, buried inside the paper. Had he died of COVID it would have been national news. The same page carried another short mention of a pedestrian hit by a car.  Just a blurb. 

Post # 84
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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@minnerose:  You are not overreacting – there is still a global pandemic going on and cases are spiking in many states in the US. Bringing large groups of people together without any precautions is a recipe for disaster. I would not go and I’m sorry that people are making you second guess your choices. My husband and I are being more cautious than most and my mom and older sister like to joke about it, which annoys me, but doesn’t stop me from being careful. I would decline and send a gift instead of risking my health to go to a large event. 

Post # 85
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@cc33ammy:  Huh? I have been riding a bus for years. I even went for more than a year without a car by choice. I think it’s great. No it’s not the way that I explained it to friends that caused their attitude. I have encountered the same attitude in many people.

Sure there are plenty of us who appreciate public transit, but in the United States we are a minority.

Post # 86
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@cypresstree85:  ok but what about the many people who DO live near public transit and choose not to take it. What business do they have COVID-shaming and feeling outraged when their own life choices don’t always promote public safety or environmental protection? I am seeing a lot of people like that now riding their high horses.

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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@Anonymous1063: 

omg enough with the busses! That’s not what this thread is about. Stop derailing it. There’s also an awful civil war in Yemen and climate change and any number of terrible death-causing things happening in the world. This thread is about weddings and Covid. 

Post # 89
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@Anonymous1063:  you’re not the morality police, and it’s so far stretched to even be making a connection with this. People can care about being cautious about COVID and be good people and yet not conform to your pristine box of what makes a good human being. Does every single choice you make in your life “promote public safety or environmental protection”? I’m sure I’m not the only one here that has zero understanding of where this connection came from. Driving a car or riding the bus has absolutely nothing to do with COVID, and nothing to do with weddings. 

Post # 90
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Bumble bee

I read this post the other day and didn’t comment. I was kind of thinking like ‘oh that’s irresponsible for the bride and groom, why would they put their family and friends in that poaition’ but at the same time I also know there are things to consider from the couple’s perspective too.

Today my mom’s coworker and his daughter tested positive for COVID that they got from a wedding. 16 people at the wedding ended up getting it, including the brides father who is now in ICU. IT IS NOT WORTH IT, people!! Morn the loss of having your wedding on a certain day with XYZ details, but realize this can cost people their long term health and longevity, if not their life completely. 

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