Post # 106
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Worker bee
- Wedding: June 2020 - City, State
I can see both sides. I just had my outdoor wedding in rural Oregon but we spaced our chairs, had hand sanitizer stations, and I didn’t invite any older guests.
Post # 107
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849 posts
Busy bee
@temeculabride: “
Does every single choice you make in your life “promote public safety or environmental protection”? “
Exactly the same question I would like to pose to all the smug COVID shamers acting as morality police.
Post # 108
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Helper bee
@Anonymous1063: I agree with you on that part. That was one of my first comments on here – stop judging others for how they handle these sticky situations. You don’t know why or why not they are having their wedding. But, I still am majorly missing the connection to public transit.
Post # 109
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Honey Beekeeper
@Anonymous1063: I’ll stop judging when people stop behaving in ways that can literally kill right here and right now.
Post # 110
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379 posts
Helper bee
@weddingmaven: But anything can kill. And maybe now I can sort of see
@Anonymous1063 point (although it was so far stretched and overkill). Getting in a car and driving to the grocery store can kill someone. Someone can die literally walking outside their front door. I’m sorry but while I do 100000% think we need to be cautious, we cannot live in a bubble. There has to be some sort of compromise for certain situations. You don’t know everyone’s life story.
I’ll say it again louder for those in the back. STOP. JUDGING. OTHERS. LIVES.
Post # 111
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Busy bee
@Anonymous1063: … is that supposed to be a gotcha question? Every choice I make that implicates the safety of the general public comes down on the side of protecting other people, yes.
You’re really telling on yourself with this question. What are the scenarios where you knowingly put the health and safety of others at risk for selfish reasons?
Let’s go ahead and count driving sober, safely, and buckled up as a necessary risk, since the US is 3000 miles wide from one coast to the other.
Post # 112
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Newbee
@temeculabride:
The virus isn’t a matter of opinion. It’s a scientific fact. You can scream “stop judging people” all you want, but that isn’t going to change the fact that people’s irresponsible actions are putting others at risk. If you want to make bad decisions that only hurt yourself, fine, you can say “don’t judge me”. But when you’ve decided to take actions that impact others negatively, you’ve lost your right to be absolved from judgement.
And, once again, can we drop the car/public transit/bus/etc. logical fallacy talk. Multiple people have explained why this analogy doesn’t hold water. Let’s keep this thread to COVID and weddings, please. Go argue about all your other life choices in another thread.
Post # 113
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Bumble bee
@Anonymous1063: deleted because I’m too angry. Not at you but the majority of people on here who are hypocrites and have never given a thought before covid-19 about what they might have passed on to someone because they went to work while sick, or out while sick.
Post # 114
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Honey Beekeeper
@oceangirl40: There’s no hypocrisy on my end. People going to work, school, and social situations while sick has always been an issue for me. But you just can’t compare other illnesses to this. Not the R factor or contagion factor, not the risk of serious illness or death to vulnerable populations including now to pregnant women, and not the sheer scope of the risk across the globe.
I will judge anyone who is cavalier about this virus as ignorant and irresponsible and also blame a total lack of leadership for what is going on in the US.
Post # 115
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Buzzing bee
Just catching up on this thread and
@Anonymous1063:, all I can say is what in the actual hell? None of what you’re saying makes any sense and I fail to see how someone not taking public transit has anything to do with COVID. Driving my car to work doesn’t get YOU sick (though taking the bus very well may), and conflating those two issues is a stretch to say the least anyway. And seems to me like you’re on the highest horse here, implying that people who don’t do something that you do, wholly unrelated to the topic at hand, means they’re somehow behaving irresponsibly…..cool story.
To those shouting “Stop judging” – well, thanks for the judgment 🙄 This situation demands that we call out those who act recklessly. I won’t judge you for having a favorite color different than mine, or liking a certain food, but when your actions DIRECTLY AFFECT THE HEALTH AND SAFETY OF MYSELF AND LOVED ONES, you bet your sweet ass I’m gonna judge you. If you ignore guidelines and contract the virus, and then go get 20 other people sick, your “freedom” to do so has robbed me of my freedom to stay healthy. So – absolutely f&$cking not.
Post # 116
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Honey bee
The outrage over an invitation to a wedding is something else.
Post # 117
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849 posts
Busy bee
@temeculabride: I originally mentioned public transit because for years I have been concerned about traffic deaths and it’s ironic to now see people who aren’t attuned to that at all so quick to criticize over any behavior they think creates a COVID risk. Then someone responded with what seemed to me a lot of myths about public transit and I could not resist taking that on. Yes it got a little far afield.
The main point is we are all probably guilty of doing something at some point that puts others at risk.
Post # 118
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Bee Keeper
@sharpshooter: Don’t forget the indignation that comes along with the outrage. It’s no fun without the indignation.
Post # 119
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Buzzing bee
@sharpshooter: It’s outrage over what the invitation represents, which is a clear denial of what’s actually happening with this virus. Then people act surprised when states have to backtrack their plans to open because ICU beds are at 100% capacity.
Post # 120
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Busy bee
@glitterati: Well I am glad I am communicating with you over the Internet and not in person because the glare of your halo might blind me.