Are people seriously having normal weddings right now?

posted 5 months ago in Guests
Post # 122
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Honey bee

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@krm1984:  I don’t see any implications from sending an invitation.  The great thing about an invitiation is that it is up to YOU as the receiver to check the box that says “regretfully declines.”  

You (general you) are going to waste a ton of emotional energy expecting/demanding others to act the same way as you are during a situation that no one has ever experienced.  

 

Post # 123
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Bumble bee

 

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@temeculabride:  This is such a strawman argument.  Sure, ANYTHING can kill if you try hard enough.  But you’re failing to address, for example, the fact that the auto industry dedicates thousands and thousands of man hours, jobs, and technology to PREVENTING car accidents from happening each year.  Just like drunk driving kills, there are LAWS to prevent it.  Just because a lot of things have the potential to be dangerous doesn’t mean we should adopt a blasé attitude and just say “Well screw it, anything can kill me, YOLO!”  That’s a great way to avoid personal responsibility and just do what you want.  That’s not how the world works.

Post # 124
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Bumble bee

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@sharpshooter:  You have a point, of course.  But if you’re invited to a wedding where YOU decline but others, like close friends and family, feel a social pressure to go and/or the bride and groom knowingly ignore guidelines put in place and get people sick, that’s a problem.  I would be really upset if someone in my friend/family circle got sick from someone who went to this wedding.  Not everything is about “you.”  Sure, YOU have a choice, but people’s choices don’t exist in a vacuum.  I think that’s what’s just so frustrating.  Sure, YOU don’t have to wear a mask because it’s “YOUR” face.  But you’re expelling particulates from that face into mine and essentially taking a risk for me that I didn’t ask for.  To me, it’s just an example of the whole “my rights are what make me an American and my ability to exercise them is important even if it’s at the cost of yours” kind of attitude going around these days.

Post # 125
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Honey bee

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@krm1984:  I probably lost all faith in humanity when Trump was voted into office, so you have to understand where I’m coming from.  I just realize people don’t care about other humans in general.  This is not a new revelation. 

It’s just magnified in light of the pandemic.

Post # 126
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Bumble bee

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@sharpshooter:  I see – you’re coming at it from just a more accepting place than I am.  LOL.  Honestly all of this is just raw for me because I’m 11 weeks pregnant and really scared, and my SIL is pregnant with twins and awaiting a C-Section and high risk.  It’s just infuriating.  I know it won’t change, but it still just really, really chafes me.  I wish I could get to the mental place where it doesn’t, but I’m just not there yet.

Post # 127
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@supertrooper01:  wth? Um no. I’ll never be at a Trump rally for one. I have barely left my house in months and when I do its with a mask. I haven’t been to a single public event. But I’m also not going to judge someone who may be forced into holding a wedding due to many extenuating circumstances we don’t know about. We don’t know their lives. 

Post # 128
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Bee Keeper

Most of the weddings I know of are not happening this year and are postponing til next year. One or two couples are doing immediate family only ceremonies. Then, they promised the other guests either a vow renewal or reception-type party in the future. 

Post # 129
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Honey Beekeeper

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@temeculabride:  No one is “forced” to hold a traditional wedding right now in areas at risk. There’s no good justification for it that overrides the current situation and yes, that includes money already spent or that you potentially could be sued for. That would be really awful, but ultimately it can cost under $100 to accomplish the goal of being married, and perhaps consider a larger celebration at a future time.

People have lost jobs, businesses or an entire year of income in order to protect public safety. No one said this was going to be easy. 

Post # 130
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@temeculabride:   I have barely left my house in months

Except to violate multiple of your county guidelines and grab a sandwich an hour away right? LOL

Post # 131
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@jellybellynelly:  yeah and if I remember correctly I asked you to provide me with the laws I was breaking and you never could. Because I wasn’t. Getting food is considered essential business. None of y’all eat!? I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again, I cannot leave my front door without going to another city. I’m not breaking any rules by getting in my car, driving to get take out, wearing a mask and socially distancing in line, coming home and changing clothes, washing up and eating. Get off your high horse and again, people need to stop judging people geez. 

Post # 132
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@temeculabride:  I’m sure its VERY easily found, but I’m not going to ask for your specific counties, as that would make identification/privacy issues. But I highly doubt your house is literally sitting right ontop of a county line and there isn’t a single grocery store or take out restaurant within your county LOL. But you keep pretending like you didnt willfully disobey what your governer said. 

Post # 133
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@Anonymous1063:  it is truly WILD that you think I’m being sanctimonious by saying I don’t make decisions that put other people at risk. Not putting other people at unnecessary risk is not a fringe position, it is the bare minimum. What does your day-to-day life look like if that seems excessive? What are you doing to the people around you? 

Post # 134
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Unfortunately, yes some are still trying to have their weddings as planned.

But, I’m in a Midwest state and 5 out of the 7 weddings we were invited to this year have been postponed to next year. The early September wedding just moved, leaving the late September and the outdoor early October one left. This is in a state with some precautions still in place, but not much, so I’m very proud of the people around me.

Post # 135
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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@jayquellen:  I’m curious to see if the early October wedding of a close friend will be postponed after this week. They’ve been very defensive about holding onto their date, but the numbers have been just so bad. Guessing they will still hold on, though…

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