- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: September 2020
Hear me out as I fear this could be a controversial opinion!
Sadly someone has recently been sexually assaulted in my city, and the police have posted about it on Facebook. What looks like an older lady commented the following:
“This is why it’s not safe to be out alone. Poor poor woman I hope they find out who is responsible”.
A fuckton of people have jumped down this lady’s throat accusing her of ‘victim blaming’, making her out to be an awful person and all liking each others comments. The comments are along the lines of “She can walk on her own – he shouldn’t have sexually assaulted her!!”
I think they are frankly being ridiculous. I don’t believe any of these women, if they were on a girls night out, would say to their friends – “you go and walk home alone because you are ENTITLED TO and because there SHOULDN’T BE any bad people out there!”. They’re a lot more likely to take precautions and stick together.
Similarly – these are all people who take precautions with literally every other crime. We all lock our doors at home, hide our valuables in the car, keep our bank account information safe and so on. If we advise other people to do the same nobody accuses anyone of ‘victim blaming’ it’s just being sensible.
Yet for some reason as soon as it involves any sexual crime we apparently can’t advise anyone to take any precautions ever because to do so is ‘victim blaming’. Seriously?
I personally don’t think it’s the victim’s fault AT ALL but that doesn’t mean that we can ignore the fact that there are shitty people out there, and advise other people to be as safe as possible.
Am I alone here?!