Post # 1
I was reading on another board that many people chose to not have programs at their wedding and didn’t feel like they were needed. We were considering having programs at our wedding only because it’s going to be a Jewish ceremony and with the exception of my family. most of our guests aren’t Jewish. So, we’d likely have a lot of people who may not know what the traditions are all about.
The main reason we were going to have a program is to give an explanation of what’s happening so no one feels left out. Can I ask my fellow bees opinions on whether this would be necessary/helpful/has been done/successful/not, etc?
Post # 3
We didn’t have programs but our rabbi did a wonderful job of explaing the elements (the huppah, the wine ceremony, the breaking of the glass). So if your rabbi can do that, I don’t think it’s necessary.
Post # 4
I’m converting, so most of my friends and family have no experience with Jewish weddings. We’re having a program so that there’s no question that people know what’s happening from the very beginning. If the rabbi explains anything in the process, that’s icing on the cake.
Post # 5
I’m not doing programs, but my ceremony is pretty typical civil stuff. I’m not Jewish, either, and while a program would be helpful for following along, I’d get by without it just fine. I usually think they’re pretty useless at a wedding, but most of the weddings I’ve been to have been in a format I already understand – as a non-Jew, I would be more appreciative of a program than usual. If you didn’t provide one, though, I’m sure I’d be able to figure it out just because I know it’s a marriage ceremony and the traditional elements would just be special extras even if I didn’t specifically know what they meant.
Maybe you should consider how many of your guests will be Jewish versus how many won’t. If only a few people are going to be left in the dark, don’t bother with a program. If the majority of your guests aren’t Jews, you might want to consider it. Most people won’t miss it, but some might appreciate the extra help.
Post # 6
As a Jew by Choice I am planning on having programs, if only for the fact my entire family has never even MET a Jew, much less been to a Jewish wedding. If you aren’t wanting to deal with the hassle of big programs, I kinda like the idea of the Rabbi walking everyone through.
Post # 7
Our wedding will be interfaith so we are certianly going to have a program. Mostly to explain the Jewish traditions. When I first started learning about a Jewish ceremony I was so lost so I know that it would be really helpful to any non-jews to have that there. As well as allowing for it to not take away from the ceremony by having the rabbi stop and explain everything.
Post # 8
I think programs will be helpful for all of your guests.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
It depends how traditional your wedding is going to be, but most of our guests had never been to a wedding like ours, so they found our programs really helpful. I started, and will be continuing to print the text of our program on the blog, so please feel free to borrow from that if you want to! We didn’t do anything fancy with our programs – just set it up on a word doc, and printed it on several pages at Kinkos – I think it was less than a dolalr per program, and they were all gone at the end of the day!
Post # 10
I selected #1, but I am Jewish. When there are interesting traditions, people want to know what’s going on.
Post # 11
We didn’t do this. We had a very small ceremony (30 people) and most of the guests were Jewish. I’ve seen our rabbi do a wedding before, so I already knew that he would explain a lot of our traditions. I think it would have been helpful for the non Jews if we did programs, but since I was trying to save time and money, we opted not to.
Post # 12
I went to a Jewish wedding, and I was familiar with some of the traditions and not others. I had friends who had no idea what was going on! They had programs explaining the traditions (and some modifications they made to be more progressive) and we really appreciated them. It helped to understand the meaning of a lot of the things that were going on, so we felt included in the ceremony instead of just confused!
Post # 13
We had programs at our wedding. Our programs contained the entire text of the ceremony, along with transliterations and translations of the Hebrew. They also contained explanations of the various Jewish wedding customs. Our guests seemed to find them helpful.
Post # 14
we had an interfaith wedding and therefore, i felt that programs were necessary so that people had an idea what was going on. chuppah, breaking glass, ketubah, yichud etc. of course our cantor explained everything to, but the program is more in depth and people can read it while they’re sitting there waiting for the ceremony to start.
also i think its a nice gesture to list your bridal party names out as well as put in a thank you to your guest and a rememberance of important people who are no longer there. in fact i’ve never been to a jewish wedding that did NOT have programs.
they are cheap and easy, so why not? we printed them on slightly heavier 8×11 paper at a minuteman press and folded them in half. i think its a nice gesture that goes a long way.
Post # 15
I love programs. : ) They’re a great momento for your guests who choose to keep them, plus I always love reading about different ceremony traditions.
Post # 16
We had an interfaith Jewish/Catholic wedding, and we had programs because we didn’t want our guests to be confused. We designed them ourselves, had them printed off at Kinko’s, and everyone loved them!