(Closed) Are rehearsal dinner invitations necessary?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are rehearsal dinner invitations necessary?
    Yes - it's a good idea : (31 votes)
    50 %
    No - as long as you tell them : (31 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would send out invites. I think you are right on this one.

    Just get some simple ones from Vistaprint and it won’t cost much at all.

    Some people ask out-of-town guests to attend the rehearsal dinner, as well, so this clarifies whether or not you are doing that.

     

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We didn’t send them out for my sisters wedding, it was only the bridal party and some out of town guests…we didn’t think it was necessary. Does it really matter? And it is a waste of paper if there aren’t THAT many people.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I personally think that Rehearsal Dinner invites are nice. They don’t have to be anything fancy, but a formal invitation is a nice touch and that way there’s no confusion as to when and where the events are. 

    My FIL’s are hosting ours and I’m curious as to how Future Mother-In-Law is going to react to my suggestion for invites. I actually already took it upon myself to make a mock-up so that she can see what I’m talking about. I don’t have an issue making them, actually I’d prefer to, I just don’t know if she’s going to want them. She didn’t do invites for FBIL’s Rehearsal Dinner a few years ago but I think that’s also because Future Sister-In-Law doesn’t have a damn clue about weddings. 

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We didn’t send out invites. We just verbally asked or sent an email aksing if they were going to be able to make it. If they were able to make it, then I sent them details.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper

    I have never seen anyone have them before, and don’t think its necessary. If you’re inviting more than the Bridal Party and families then maybe, but I’ve still never gotten one or known of anyone that has done them.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    At the very least, I would send out an e-invite. 

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t think that they are absolutely necessary… but nice to do.

    We’re sending out invitations. But my mother is throwing the dinner and she’s going all out to make it really really nice… so she’s made some cute invites.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We didn’t send any out, and I really wish we had. There was a whole mess of confusion over who was invited and who wwasn’t. Better to be safe than sorry- I say do the invites on your own.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @cherrycoke: We sent them out. While researching wedding stuff, I fell in love with a rehearsal dinner invitation, so I bought them and printed them. I’ve seen some really nice ones out there. I’m a paper fan, so I happily bought them. When my best friend got married, her Mother-In-Law sent out basic ones with the information on it. I still have it somewhere. Either way, I like them. Since it’s a smaller group of people, it’s a lot less work than regular invitations.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s really nice, but not necessary. I have never received an invite to an Rehearsal Dinner, although we were invited to one but found out too late (we were coming from out of town and had already booked our flights/set work schedule).

    As long as you are letting people know the details on the Rehearsal Dinner…you could email or call everyone, but if it’s a bunch of people, it might be easier just to send out invites.

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I wouldn’t say they are necessary, but I like them. I used leftover invitation materials and typed up a quick invite, listing the time and location for the rehearsal and dinner.  I also added an RSVP to _____ by _____, so Future Mother-In-Law could give the dinner venue a final number.  I think it’s a nice touch, and a very easy DIY project.  Even an e-vite would be ok for this, I think!

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    it depends–is it just immediate family and the wedding party? if it’s a small group i don’t think it’s necessary. we invited all oot guests to ours, so it was much bigger, and so we had rd invites

    Post # 14
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I sent them because my Future Mother-In-Law wanted to invite all the out of town guests on her side (that were not involved in the wedding), but did not give us the budget to do so (we are not doing anything extravagant and are working with a really low budget).  Since my family and fiance and I are paying for everything else, we wanted to make sure people knew it was “invitation only” and they should not attend if they were not part of the rehearsal.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We’re doing e-vites. That way people know when it is, and we know how many people are actually planning on coming, since we’re inviting the out of towners. It’s free and easy to set up.

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