Are rehearsal dinners necessary?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
6460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Nope. They aren’t a necessity.

Post # 3
642 posts
Busy bee

If you’re not having a rehearsal, then there’s no requirement to have a rehearsal dinner. The concept is really a thank you to the people you’ve asked to go out of their way to do a rehearsal (plus their SO’s as social units).

If you skip both, you’re fine. If you wanted to have a casual get together as a meet-n-greet that night, you can – but it’s 100% optional if you’re not doing a rehearsal. I’ve just seen a lot of people skip the rehearsal itself and have a low key pizza thing, or easy BBQ for whoever is there, whenever they get there. Makes it a little less of a stressor, if you still want to do something.

Post # 4
2514 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

If you’re having people fly in I would at least have a welcome dinner for them since they’re flying. It would be easy to figure out when everyones flights arrive. 

Post # 5
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Nope. Not necessary. If nothing else, email them some photos of the site with some short description of the order, etc. 

Post # 6
2091 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No, not necessary. I did not have a rehearsal. We (bridesmaids, my cousin and myself) just had to walk out and down the aisle. There was zero to rehearse. I think that many times venues use this as a way to add on another fee for something. I agree with PP that you can do something else instead.

Post # 8
2655 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We had kind of a rehearsal (met with our celebrant at his house to do a run through of the ceremony so we knew exactly when everything was happening, just Darling Husband and I) but we didn’t have a rehearsal dinner. In all honesty, I’ve never really seen the point of the rehearsal for the bridal party – how hard is it to walk down an aisle and stand at the front? The day of, our venue coordinator escorted us all to the right spot, got everyone lined up and sent everyone down the aisle at the right time. Our celebrant introduced our readers, so they knew exactly when they needed to go to the front. I’m not sure if it’s just a cultural thing (I’m Australian) but I don’t know anyone who has done a rehearsal/rehearsal dinner.

Post # 9
9853 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I actually did find doing a run through of the ceremony helpful. But we would have been fine without it as well so it isn’t absolutely necessary. I don’t think a welcome dinner is necessary either, by the way.

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