Are Save the Dates All that Necessary?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

No they aren’t necessary. If there are VIPs who you really want to make sure they save the date and can have time to book flights or whatever, just email or call them.  

Post # 3
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I would assume that you cleared the date with the VIPs already. Since all of them are local, I’d definitely save your money and do electronic Save-The-Date Cards now. Invites wouldn’t go out until July or August so I think you still have a good amount of time for a STD to be helpful.

Eta: Save the dates are not necessary at all, but an email with a heads up at this point couldn’t hurt and would be free to do.

Post # 4
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas


Waste of money and time.

We didn’t do Save the Dates, and opted to just send the real invitations a tad bit earlier, as the vast majority of our guests were coming from out of town.


Post # 5
2699 posts
Sugar bee

People 40+ don’t really even know what they are or what they’re for. Save-The-Date Cards are a newer thing. The first time I got one a few years ago, I was confused and didn’t know if I was invited or not, where the wedding was and why they were sending out half-assed invitations so early. So, yeah, I’d say at THIS POINT they’re not a necessity although it is trending to go that way for the next generation.

Post # 6
3294 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I don’t think they are a need unless heavy travel is coming into play. 

Post # 7
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

Every one of our guests is travelling so we just sent invitations early. No Save-The-Date Cards.

Post # 8
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

They are fun but not necessary. It’s not too late to send them for a Sept wedding if you want to. June-Sept are busy months for us so knowing in advance is nice. 

Post # 9
1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

They’re not necessary. We just sent out the normal invitations. Most people already knew what date we had picked though because the majority of our guests were family. 

Post # 10
4203 posts
Honey bee

shyqueen12 :  I’m starting to wonder the same thing and I feel like it’s an extra unnecessary expense. I donn’t think it’s a must at all but just communicate the date & place to your guests ahead of time and send the wedding invitation earlier like 3 months prior the wedding perhaps?

Post # 11
2455 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

A lot of our guests are traveling (some involving flights) and it’s the summer, so we sent save the dates to avoid any potential miscommunication.

You could do electronic save the dates so they’ll get out sooner.

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