(Closed) Are save the dates necessary?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think depending on the situation it can be a nice gesture. Are they mandatory? IMO, no way.

More than half of my guests are Korean who don’t even pay attention or RSVP with the wedding invite, there was NO point in us mailing out STD’s, when my parents guests do everything in person or by word of mouth.

If you have a lot of Out of Town guests than I say that it’s nice to let them know so they can start making early travel arrangements.


Post # 4
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think people like to have them – but I didn’t do them (kind of wish I did some times).  I don’t think it’s too late for you, if you change your mind.  But definitely not necessary, especially if you’ve told people the date.  I will say, I have been surprised at how many people who I thought knew our date, asked me what the date was (making me think I should have done STD’s).

Post # 5
91 posts
Worker bee

absolutely not! in fact save the dates confused some of our older guests! they wanted to know the ceremony time (it wasn’t even set yet!). Don’t worry about it 🙂

Post # 6
48 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

I defintely don’t think save the dates are necessary, but we opted to send them because we’re having a Friday evening wedding.  I wanted to minimize any possible inconveniences to our guests by letting them know a few details way ahead of time.  For instance, we included the ceremony time in addition to the date on the save the dates, just to help people plan as they might have to leave work early in order to come. 

If we were doing a Saturday wedding, I don’t think we would have sent save the dates.  I was just worried about people not being able to come to the Friday wedding, so I wanted to let everyone know as early as I could.  

Post # 7
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It depends on if you have a lot of out of town guests are not.  It gives them time to budget for flights/hotels and also time to look for good deals on flights.  If most of your guests are in town, it probably isn’t as necessary.  If you want a quick alternative, you can always create an electronic version of the STD and email it out and just say you’re being green.  🙂

Post # 8
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Nope, they’re not. Save the Dates are a new thing in the last 20 years or so. I decided against sending them, but I’m going to send the invites out a few weeks early. I’m having a small wedding and everyone has been told when it is. Nearly everyone is coming from out of town too, myself included. We booked a venue where we used to live and had to move because my fiance was offered a new job. Neither of our families live there.

I think if you want them, that’s fine, but you don’t need them.

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