(Closed) Are save-the-dates really necessary?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didn’t bother with them, personally i think they’re a waste of money, you’ll tell people when and what date you’re getting married on. They’ll remember, and lets face it have plenty of notice.

Post # 4
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ll give you a Judith Martin style answer: “Only if you wish guests to save the date.”

They don’t have to be expensive – take a picture, have some postcards printed up, Bob’s your uncle.

Post # 6
979 posts
Busy bee

There are a ton of cheap ways to do STD’s.  Just research. 


We are doing them.  We get a free e-session from our photographer and want to do it because we don’t have any good pictures of each other together.  As a photographer myself, I have cheap printing resources from my labs I use for my clients and the ability to edit to the way I want the STD’s to be.   


Zazzle, Vista…they are always offering great deals also.

ETA: we are having about a 50 person wedding, and only need about 30 STD/Invites, so it won’t be too expensive for us.


Post # 7
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didn’t do Save-The-Date Cards, because everyone is local, and whoever isn’t local already knows the date (aka my parents and a couple of close friends). We’re also having a very intimate wedding, so the reach of the guest list doesn’t go very far and thus information is easy to pass along.

Post # 9
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Elrodien:  No. They are not necessary at all. 

We;re doing it because our photographer included it in our package and will provide us with magnet save the dates…otherwise, I wouldn’t have. 

Post # 10
3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@Elrodien:  I think Save-The-Date Cards are very important, can be fun, and are borderline necessary.  We did them, and they turned out awesome!  I was super excited to send them out!  I think it’s important to send them if you want people to show up.  That doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot of money.  It could be a postcard.  But giving everyone ample notice (especially out-of-town guests) is crucial.  I personally dislike the idea of giving them out only to out-of-town guests because then some people might get their feelings hurt.  I can just hear my aunt saying, “Well, why didn’t I get one?  Am I not invited?”  It’ll avoid confusion if you just send them to everyone you plan on inviting.

Post # 12
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We didn’t want to spend the $300+ to do them. So we scrapped the idea. I think they are cute though. I really like the pictures that are magnets. We have like 3 from other people still on our fridge ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Because I need to schedule flights for most weddings that I go to, I appreciate a STD to put on the fridge and remind myself.  I don’t think it’s necessary, but it’s very nice to have so I don’t forget when I’m making flight plans and have to get a hold of somebody to ask.


I use VistaPrint a lot for work and they have great prices and great customer service!


If you really don’t want to spend the money though, maybe an eSave the Date?  Email a somewhat designed email or something that people could print out.  I think that’s a nice alternative with modern technology ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I wasn’t planning on sending them (we are having a Destination Wedding and we sent our invitations about 6 months in advance). But when Fiance and I were looking at wedding invitations, he really liked a particular Save the Date magnet and insisted that we send them with our invitations. He wouldn’t believe me that we were suppose to send them out before the invitations, apparently its a nice way for our guests to remember our wedding everytime they go to the fridge – lol.




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