(Closed) Are save the dates really necessary…?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

We’re not doing Save-The-Date Cards. We;re sending the invites 4 months in advance and lettting people we know before that (through word of mouth or emailing them for addresses). 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Depends whether or not you want anyone to actually save the date! Post me one and I guarantee I will not make any other plans for the day of your wedding. I will also have time to think over and save up for a thoughtful gift, and book all my transport, accomodation and days off work (if needed) at my earliest convenience – not another month or so down the track when it’s more expensive, booked out, or just a stressful headfuck! 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

hey! I don’t think you have to send out Save-The-Date Cards I sent them because I’m having a Tuesday wedding in the school holidays so I figured people would need to plan way ahead for time off work and make sure they didn’t book their summer holiday on the day of my wedding! It all depends on your situation but they certainly aren’t necessary for everyone 🙂 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

PrinnyMartel:  Save-The-Date Cards are a relatively new concept. Just another product of the wedding industry. I don’t see the point either. Would you send someone a STD and not an invite? Hopefully not. As you said, it makes more sense to send the invites earlier instead.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Also I wanted to give people chance to get cheaper accomodation. I sent mine out a year before the weddinG! Lolz

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

I sent mine out later than planned, and my sister informed me she had already booked a holiday for that weekend. People book things early these days, with getting time off work, having busy social lives, and just doing stuff in general. Best to let them know well in advance that you want them to keep that date free.<br />having said that, there is no reason you can’t do it by email or phone if you are wanting to save costs.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

oh! If u do send them, I wouldnt send them to evening only guests as they may expect to be invited to the whole day x

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

PrinnyMartel:  we’re planning a wedding where our entire guest list has to travel to attend, so we’re sending the save the dates out much earlier than 4 months..  That’s when we’ll probably send the invites, if not earlier. If most of your guest list is local, you’ll probably be fine. But make sure to send the invites early enough for guests to plan accordingly!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  michellia.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

to be honest, you would have to finalize a lot of details about 5-6 months in advance, order invites, then send them if you plan to get them out 4 months before the wedding! that might be hard to have the times finalized 6 months in advance. 

save the dates aren’t necessary, but they can be pretty affordable if you get a good deal! we sent ours out 10 months before the wedding, so it wasn’t a small gap between invite and std like you mention. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I did but only for those who will have to travel.  I just did electronic ones – easy and completely free!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

I also don’t think Save-The-Date Cards are necessary. You’re going to send invitations anyway, so what’s the point? It’s just another potential cost. We just sent out our invitations 4.5 months before the wedding to give people time to plan their schedules, etc.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

STD are optional. I did them because I was so excite to start the wedding planning process and std just makes it feel so real to me. I waited until I booked the venue before sending them out. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We did them because we have very active friends and family who are constantly busy and traveling. It’s not Unheard of for our social circle to have plans months and months in advance. We wanted everyone to know when our wedding would be far enough in advance that they could plan time off if need be, plan to travel, etc. I just think it is a curtesy to your guests. If you aren’t too worried about some people not being able to attend then you can def skip them! (Oh and we sent ours out 9 months in advance).

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m so glad I’m not the only one! My fiancé and I literally just had this conversation. We are on a pretty strict budget as well, so we are skipping save the dates and sending out invitations three months in advance. I would rather spend my money on a few more guests or flowers or anything! Besides save the dates lol

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