Post # 1
We were considering just nixing them all together since honestly most of the ones we get end up in the trash a week after. If we don’t send them out, we’ll just send out our invitations earlier so the few that are making accommodations can do so in time. We have nobody coming from more than a couple hours away, we don’t live in an area where hotels book up fast, and only a very small handful (like 10 people) will be getting hotels. There’s always the possibility that they’ll get another save the date first on the same day as our wedding, but I don’t even think that really matters because people will choose who’s they want to go to no matter who’s they received first. Am I missing some other reason why save the dates are necessary? About 100 of the 250 are family that we see often and already know our date, and the rest are parents friends, a handful of our friends, and then people who have played a part in our lives growing up. If you do feel that they are necessary, any ideas on how to do them for cheap?
Post # 2
The only other reason I think they’re practical is when your wedding is on a holiday weekend. Otherwise, I don’t think they’re necessary!
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
I didn’t even realize STD’s were a thing until coming here. Seriously confused as to why an announcement has to be sent to inform a person that they will later get an invite months down the line. I thought the invitation was the announcement. O.o Really don’t think we’ll be wasting money on this.
Post # 4
Save the Dates aren’t necessary and you won’t find an etiquette guru that says they’re a must. It was one of my “hell, why not” things to do. We did an email, so it couldn’t have been any cheaper. There are sites that will let you design a pretty email for free.
Post # 5
Nope. We didn’t do save the dates, and I have no regrets. Even if you do send them, people are still going to not save the date.
Post # 6
heavenlyflower : It must be a regional thing! We almost always get them to the weddings we’re invited to. I usually don’t even mark it on the calendar before throwing it away unless it’s a family member. I think people think sending a save the date ensures that people will make sure that day is free and won’t make other plans.
Post # 7
I personally like them, espicially if the wedding is in the summer. It helps us plan vacations, time at the cottage, golf tournaments etc.
Post # 8
No, definitely not necessary. For any of our VIPs and people we definitely were inviting and had to make travel arrangements, we just sent them an email or called them to let them know the information.
Post # 9
They are only necessary if a significant amount of guests need notice, if they are traveling or need to put in for time off work very far in advance. This is not the case for you so they are not needed.
Post # 10
Its not neccessary but its helpful for out of town guests especially. You could just let your VIPs know word of mouth. It would stink if your friends or family booked some non-refundable vacation they could have easily done a different weekend had they known your date. And if you start just telling everyone….well then most people find it easier to just send a postcard!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club
soon2bemrs10142017 : we did it because we had a lot of family out of state and this would allow them ahead of time to potentially find flights in. It worked out
Post # 12
most people I know dont’ really pay much attention to them. From what I hear the way of thinking is to send them out, expect people to hold the date, but you don’t have to send them a invite.
They seem to cause more harm than good IMO- people getting a STD way ahead, then they break up with the groom’s brother, then it’s awkward as to will they get a invite. I wouldn’t bother myself. If you think some need a extra far ahead notice, I’d just send their invites earlier.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
We did save the dates via email…but it was just because we wanted to…not because we had to. Plus everyone kept asking us if we had picked a date yet.
I don’t see them as necessary though.
Post # 14
Totally not necessary. We did choose to do them because we had a very short engagement (3.5 months), so we whipped up a postcard on Minted a few days after we knew the date. We only sent to immediate family that we 100% knew would be invited, and I’m glad we did; we aren’t able to invite everyone we’d initially hoped to.
Post # 15
soon2bemrs10142017 : I only had them because mine will be a destination wedding and I wanted to give my guests plenty of notice in advance. That way, they can make all the necessary arrangements (put in vacation requests at work, book flights, hotels) ahead of time before I actually work out the nitty gritty details of the wedding. I also provided a link to our wedding website, which can be updated along the way.