(Closed) Are save the dates really necessary?

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 31
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Woodlawn Cemetery

Not necessary 

Post # 32
568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m going to have save the date for mines. I’m going to have a big wedding and will have guests from out of town and country. Plus, I will be having my wedding during the summer so I want people to be able to plan around my wedding. However, it’s not necessary to have.

Post # 33
30 posts

Not necessary at all! If you don’t want to do them, I don’t think it’s worth it 🙂

We sent them out for several reasons. 1) It was fun! People texted us pictures of them when they arrived and it was a happy conversation point. I love getting other people’s STDs so I can get excited for them months before the wedding.

2) I got everyone’s addresses. There will be some changes, sure, but they’re already compiled and ready to print for invitations.

3) 100% of our guests are out of town. We just moved to a new area and are getting married where we live. Since everyone will need to travel, and we invited some cousins we haven’t seen in a while, we wanted to let everyone know they were invited early on.

Post # 34
107 posts
Blushing bee

I think they’re practical if it’s a busy season where you are, and/or you have a lot of people coming from out of town. We did them because our wedding is a) on the May 24 weekend, and b) half of the guests are coming from away. We made ours on VistaPrint as postcards. If only a few people are coming from out of town, and it’s not on a holiday weekend when people are likely to make other plans, then what I would do is call up anyone from out of town and give them the details so they can make plans, and not worry about STDs for anyone else.

Post # 35
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

 My fiance and I are only going to have a 6 month engagement, and we did not send out save the date cards. Once we picked a date we simply got in touch with our guests and told them the date probably 5 months out. Then, we sent our invitations out 3 months before our date. We picked 3 months because everyone will have to travel to attend our wedding. So, we wanted to give everyone enough time to make travel arrangments and request time off work. But, looking back I think sending the invites 2 months in advance would have been fine-since we notifitied everyone well in advance. Long story short-you do not need to send them.

Post # 36
2165 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

No, they are entirely optional. Only very organized people are going to block it off on their calendars, as people will accept whatever invitation looks the most fun, on any day.

If there are a few people you know you want there, and there might be an issue with them having to make plans in advance, just write a short note that serves as a quasi-STD. It doesn’t have to be a novel, just a notecard.

Post # 37
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

We didn’t think they were necessary and didn’t get save the date cards, we will just mail our invitations out earlier

Post # 38
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

STD were great in our case as many of our family and friends attend at least 2 weddings and at least 1 reunion in the summer.  In addition, half the family was 2 provinces over so they needed time to secure travel plans.

If you have a small guest list and most are local and you keep in touch with a majority of them, it’s definitely not necessary.

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