(Closed) Are shower gifts wedding gifts?? I thought they were the same thing!

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Are shower gifts and wedding gifts considered separate?
    Shower gifts are SHOWER SPECIFIC and a gift should still be brought to the wedding : (111 votes)
    85 %
    A shower gift is considered a guest's contribution and no gift needs to be brought to the wedding : (19 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    They are two different things. You have a shower gift and then a wedding gift.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @TwoStatesBride:  I thought the same thing until I started going to weddings as an adult. 

     

    Typically in my circle, people buy shower gifts for the bridal shower and then they either bring checks to the wedding, or some other gift. 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @TwoStatesBride:  No, one registry is enough. No reason to have two. You’re fine! 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee

    @Mimoza:  +1 I believe its customary to do a bridal shower gift, and then a card with money or a second larger gift to the wedding. In NY, its typical to do a small bridal shower gift like a kitchen item, then money and a card or a bigger gift to the wedding. This could be NY style though!

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @TwoStatesBride:  we created one registry with everything we need, and we figure some of the gifts will be brought to to the shower and whatever’s left can be purchased as wedding gifts by other guests. If the registry runs out of things, hopefully people will just bring a card or check. We are not making seperate shower and wedding registries. 

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Around here, you would get gifts for a shower and money for a wedding.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We bring what’s on the registry (or a check) to the shower and always a check to the wedding.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Usually, bridal shower gifts are playful things, like lingerie or things to take on the honeymoon. Then, the wedding gifts are for the couple to share.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @whitums:  Yeah. It must be different depending on the region.

     

    I mean I don’t really agree with it, because I was raised very humble…and asking extended family to “help” with your purchases feels conceited to me but….yeah, that’s the standard in NY. 

     

    Btw this is also what we are being forced to do.

     

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @TwoStatesBride:  They are two seperate events, and you should bring two seperate gifts. Think about the totally amount that you can/are willing to spend, then divide it. Depending on the situation, location, etc., I’d say $25-$60 (buying an actual gift) for a shower (though a lot of people spent more on my at my recent shower, so I’ve gotta rethink that, I think!) and $100+ (cash, check, gift card) for a wedding.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee

    @TwoStatesBride:  If your registry is already pretty big, I don’t think you need a separate one.  At least at the showers I’ve been to, the gifts tended to be kitchen gadgets and cookware, whereas at the wedding the gifts were more like nice china and money.  So if all of those items are already on your registry, I wouldn’t worry about a second one.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @TwoStatesBride:  I always thought the same thing. You buy a gift for one or the other but not both! Amazing what you learn as you grow up! Of the last 3 weddings we have attended, we werent able to make it to the showers so we just bought gifts for the wedding.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @TwoStatesBride:  I didn’t realize this until we started planning our wedding either.  I am just glad the only wedding showers I have been to have been work ones, so I wasn’t invited to the wedding anyway.  I would have looked like a cheapo!

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